Does anybody else feel their mother or mother-in-law fails to recognise that they are a mother too? Both mothers of mine still seem to think that my celebrations are not important and that frustrates me. I am happy to see them and make a big deal I just wish we could do it on another day. Anyone else have this problem?

Posted by colleen b., 6th May 2014

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  • I think it is more that it is guaranteed time with their children, as now you all live apart, a mother is a mother, and its all your days


  • My mother in law doesn’t see it as my day, I took her and my mum and my daughter out for afternoon tea, and all my mother in law could say, was she wanted to spend the afternoon with her son (my husband), if she only knew, he had no intention of spending anytime with her, and didn’t even buy her a card or gift, I did that.. You can’t win EVER


  • I don’t have that problem. Mothers Day is for every mother.


  • I always make sure I get something for my Mum as it is a day I show her how much she means to me. Today she asked me what did I want fr Mother’s Day and I told her i am not her Mum so don’t worry about it and I only ever want from my kids a phone call to show they care anything else is always a bonus for me but they always get me something.


  • I’ve always had something to give my mother and grandmother for Mother’s Day but all I’ve ever had is a phone call. I suppose it’d be nice to be acknowledged a little bit more but then that’s what my hubby and kids are for. To see their happy faces on Mother’s Day is all the acknowledgement I need :)


  • Mine are the same, my grandmother and father in law are the only ones that recognize that im a mum too


  • As a mum to a mum I do understand where you are coming from. Last year I must admit that I was not particularly sensitive as I was so focused on seeing my grand daughter. This year I asked if my daughter wanted to come over for lunch and will be doing all of the work for lunch so that she can relax. My grand daughter is just turning two so having the extra hands to round her up will help as well.


  • My grandma is so caring that she always knows that I get nothing for Mother’s Day, as I’m on my own and my son is only 8, that she has in the past sent me little token gifts to acknowledge it. I also acknowledge Mother’s Day for both my grandma who I consider like my mum and my mother and this year I will give my step mum a call as well. Yes I think you should have your Mother’s Day as a special day too. Why not all go out to lunch together for the day or something so that everyone can be involved and
    Feel special. Last Mother’s Day before my circumstances changed, my son went into a jewellery store and helped me select a special Mother’s Day ring. I will always treasure it. It reminds me of the first time we actively went out together and celebrated Mother’s Day. It’s so important whether you have a partner or not.


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