As a Mum, daughter and an employee I have certain responsibilities that have to be met. Sometimes finding a balance is really hard and you tend to let things slide. Like only cleaning the house when you know someone is coming over, or thinking stuff it the kids can skip a day of showering. I’m coming to realise as women we put to much pressure on ourselves to do everything. I’m pretty sure it’s a control issue with me. And women, as a whole are a judgey bunch. So as I’m approaching 35 this year, and am SO wise. I have decided I’m going to get more organised and put myself and family first. Plus I promise to cut myself some slack. (Cause wiping up the water off the floor with a towel after the kids have a bath, is so counted as mopping).

Posted by Starlight, 5th June 2014

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  • Your post is so true. We do put a lot of pressure on ourselves generally but I find it really hard to not.. I think it is just the way I am however in saying that I am getting slightly better (at 40!)


  • My hubby writes messages in the dust for me (that’s how often I dust)…he likes to think he’s being funny.


  • your post made me smile I was always cleaning before my accident and now I really don’t care as long as my dished are done be it may be 2 in the morning and can air dry now benches are clean and my toilet is clean and bath are cleaned that is all I worry about now. The rest can be done when ever it gets done. We don’t really get visitors as we live to far out and if they are only coming to see my house than don’t come back. I have watch some movies that have been on heaps and now notice just how much I did not see as I would go off and do something else when I thought of it.


  • I smiled too when I read your post. I must be the only person I know who consistently washes up the dinner things in the morning. I rinse food off everything and stack everything neatly, quickly wipe surfaces and then join my husband to watch our favourite show together. He loves this idea and we enjoy relaxing together and settling down for an early night. Even before I retired, I preferred this routine and gave myself plenty of time in the morning.
    Same if we have guests – I’d rather spend time with them than the dishes. ( No, I’m not planning on getting a dishwasher. Some very important thinking happens while I’m at the sink)


  • Your story made me smile as what you were saying sounded so much like me.
    My hubby is always tellling me to slow down and to stop worrying what everyone else is doing or saying as long as the kids have been fed and have clothes on the dishes can wait the cleaning can wait lol, yeah right like thats going to really happen.


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