I struggled for a week with my first baby to breastfeed. I believe it was due to every single midwife and nurse that came on shift poking her head in the door and putting me through stress with their pushy advice and forcefulness. It eventually came in when a lovely nurse whom I knew ran a “line” which is a very skinny pipe of formula alongside my nipple and since he was sucking correctly and I was relaxed it finally came in. He nursed till 18 months. With my second baby I knew to tell the pushy midwives I will be fine, thanks! One had the nerve to tell me even after I declined her “help” I was holding him all wrong and when I mentioned I had only weaned my last 4 months ago, she snapped, “Every baby feeds differently!”. Well yes, but no need to think I am incapable! Luckily my milk was straight in second time round, just as well as my boy was very unwell and in special care unit. It should not be hard, if people just took a step back and let us bond with our baby and find our own way. Of course sometimes people need some help, but it should be only if you ask, not shoved in your face, as it was in my experience.

Posted by Sarah Kennedy, 16th May 2013

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  • yes i remember all too well. i was having trouble learning to breastfeed and all the nurses were lovely and would help. One old nurse came on and was so damn cranky and i asked her for help and she went off telling me that i should be able to do this already and just shoved my boob into bub’s mouth and made her cry. i hated that sour old cow and so i persevered and got my child on myself. I did not want her to come back in my room so i waited until the next nurse was on to talk to. Thank god i got my baby on or i would have cried.


  • Good point about ‘help’ being shoved onto mothers.


  • Got to love a pushy midwife!


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