A few months ago, I posted a story online where my husband’s parents weren’t holding Miss 4’s hand when crossing the road. Grandmother said that she would talk to grandfather about it. In my story, I said that my husband wouldn’t allow me to confront them.
Months later, the situation is worse. My husband told me that he didn’t say not to confront his parents but HE wasn’t able to confront them as he hadn’t seen the behaviour. We viewed the behaviour 6 more times with both of us telling them off.
The last time, the grandfather started to cross the road with Miss 4 at night.They were half way across the road when he let go of Miss 4’s hand and went to fetch something. My husband yelled at grandfather in frustration and horror. Miss 4 cried for 20 minutes. The grandparents said that Miss 4 cried because of the yelling. Miss 4 said she cried because of being left in the dark in the middle of the road.
Grandfather stormed off after saying that he had checked the road for cars and knew Miss 4 would be safe. Grandmother followed. A week later, the grandmother told us that she would not look after the children except on Mondays, our preferred day. She told my husband off for yelling and asked if he had a psychological problem. She refused to elaborate or discuss – so no doubt that comment was designed to inflame.
A week later, the she begged my husband to speak to grandfather. They spoke. Grandfather denies hearing us tell him off. He said that he had checked the road and that Miss 4 was never in danger. He does not think that he has done anything wrong. And if we don’t trust him, and he won’t look after the children. He said that they can come to him when they are older. Of course he sees them when grandmother or we bring them over and the girls adore him.
There are two sides to every story. They are wonderful with the children, and generous and loving – all except this. This doesn’t make sense and is very sad.
Posted by deb_gs, 28th June 2015