My husband and I have recently decided to start trying for a baby but I am really nervous because I was diagnosed with Poly Cystic Ovarian Syndrome a few years ago. I don’t know if I’m going to be able to fall pregnant and while my husband is quite understanding, I know how much he wants kids and I already feel like a slight failure as a woman because everything done there isn’t functioning correctly. Any thoughts from women who have had similar feelings?

Posted anonymously, 5th April 2014

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  • great


  • hope some thing good will happen for you soon


  • Don’t give up and don’t stress. Pregnancies have a habit of happening right when it is best, although you only see that in hindsight :)


  • Im sorry to hear you feel like your a failure but your not and I’m sure your husband would never think like that either.
    Maybe go and see you doctor and ask for helpful information on ways to help fail pregnant good luck and hope you fall pregnant soon :)


  • I have PCOS, and it took my husband and I 3 years to fall pregnant with our son. Each time my period would arrive would herald a new round of heartbreak, and I felt a failure. I felt broken. I was lucky though, as I found a lovely group of women who also suffered from infertility issues. They have been such a support to me, and I don’t know how I would have kept it all together over those 3 years without them.
    My suggestions? First and foremost, remember that YOU ARE NOT A FAILURE! You need to cut yourself some slack, you cannot control PCOS. Secondly, have fun. Don’t make trying to conceive a chore. Make sure that you and your partner make time for yourselves outside the baby-making process. Third, find a group of women who have or are going through what you’re experiencing. They will provide invaluable support and advice. Last of all, get to know your body and your cycles. Take your basal body temperature each morning at the same time, and learn to ‘read’ your cervical mucus and cervical positions (a bit gross, but it’s amazing how you can learn where you are in your cycle through these steps). That will help you figure out when you’re ovulating, what your normal premenstrual symptoms are, and how long your cycles typically are.

    • Thank you so much for your response. Reading your story and just knowing that I’m not the only one who experienced these emotions makes me feel more confident. Again, thank you for taking the time to share your story with me.


  • Talk to your doctor, but please NEVER feel as tho you are a failure, we are all different and some of us just have harder hurdles to jump!!!! (at different times in our lives)


  • I had pcos and found that as soon as I stoped stressing about it I feel pregnant after trying for 6 months. What you are feeling is normal but stress and worry can play a big part in not being able to conceive. You sound like you have a wonderful support person and partner who loves you very much. Have you tried talking to him about how you’re feel, it often does good to share these things. There is a lot that can be done now for women with pcos so even an appointment with your GP may put your mind at ease.


  • I would talk to you GP or a specialist in the area to guide you through the process. I know of many ladies with this condition that have had children.


  • talk to your doctor about this and your concerns. i also have this condition and I have been pregnant many times so it can happen and I do know of others that have with this condition as well. You may need some type of medication to help you


  • I have Poly Cystic Ovaries (but not the syndrome) and I must admit that we had to undergo IVF in order to get our family (although ironically, it wasn’t my ovaries that were the issue in the end!). The good news for us ladies with bumpy ovaries is that if we do end up having to take that route to motherhood, our bodies just LOVE the hormones (in fact, we tend to produce too many eggs). There’s no point in worrying about something that might not be an issue. I suggest you talk to your doctor or fertility specialist about your concerns and see what they recommend. Each case is different. I hope that you fall soon and that these concerns fade away for you. Good luck.


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