UK mum is thankful she got to spend time with her newborn son after his passing. “I got to stay with my son for three days. I got to dress him, got to wash him and got to stare at him for hours like any other mother would.”
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Becki Wilson, 26, was told 15 weeks into pregnancy that her baby boy may not live long after birth – and was offered a late termination at 25 weeks.
“At first they told me he may not last in the womb, then as I got further into my pregnancy they said he could be severely deformed.
“They offered me the late termination and I refused – my baby was kicking, he was moving and his heart was healthy.
“I couldn’t physically see the problem and wanted to give him the best chance I could.”
Little Carter-James Wilson died just 16 hours after he was born.
Becki told The Sun: “The staff were amazing, we knew it was time and they let all the family in to see him, and let me say when.
“Saying goodbye and parting with our beautiful boy was one of the hardest things we’ve ever had to do.”
Becki was given a “cuddle cot”, which is a little blanket that goes into a crib to keep the baby at an appropriate temperature so families can spend more time with them.
“I got to stay with my son for three days. I got to dress him, got to wash him and got to stare at him for hours like any other mother would.
“Being able to do that made a dramatic difference.
“I felt like I was able to be a mum to him, and that’s something I’ll never forget.
“I’m eternally gratefully to them for helping to make my boy’s 16 hours and some time after the most magical of my life.”
In Australia the cuddle cot is a cooling system that has been designed to fit within a small cot. This effective system allows for babies who have passed away to remain with their families so that they are not required to be cooled in a mortuary environment. Cuddle Cots enable family members to travel to visit and meet the baby, siblings to meet one another and even gives parents the option of taking their baby home to lay in their own cot, in their own room or travel in their own car seat.
Bears of Hope says, it’s about giving parents choices, and reassuring them that they can spend as much time as they like with their baby, without the fear of the baby needing to be cooled in a traditional mortuary.
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