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UK mum is thankful she got to spend time with her newborn son after his passing. “I got to stay with my son for three days. I got to dress him, got to wash him and got to stare at him for hours like any other mother would.”

*TRIGGER WARNING – distressing content

Becki Wilson, 26, was told 15 weeks into pregnancy that her baby boy may not live long after birth – and was offered a late termination at 25 weeks.

“At first they told me he may not last in the womb, then as I got further into my pregnancy they said he could be severely deformed.

“They offered me the late termination and I refused – my baby was kicking, he was moving and his heart was healthy.

“I couldn’t physically see the problem and wanted to give him the best chance I could.”

Little Carter-James Wilson died just 16 hours after he was born.

Becki told The Sun: “The staff were amazing, we knew it was time and they let all the family in to see him, and let me say when.

“Saying goodbye and parting with our beautiful boy was one of the hardest things we’ve ever had to do.”

Becki was given a “cuddle cot”, which is a little blanket that goes into a crib to keep the baby at an appropriate temperature so families can spend more time with them.

“I got to stay with my son for three days. I got to dress him, got to wash him and got to stare at him for hours like any other mother would.

“Being able to do that made a dramatic difference.

“I felt like I was able to be a mum to him, and that’s something I’ll never forget.

“I’m eternally gratefully to them for helping to make my boy’s 16 hours and some time after the most magical of my life.”

In Australia the cuddle cot is a cooling system that has been designed to fit within a small cot. This effective system allows for babies who have passed away to remain with their families so that they are not required to be cooled in a mortuary environment. Cuddle Cots enable family members to travel to visit and meet the baby, siblings to meet one another and even gives parents the option of taking their baby home to lay in their own cot, in their own room or travel in their own car seat.

Bears of Hope says, it’s about giving parents choices, and reassuring them that they can spend as much time as they like with their baby, without the fear of the baby needing to be cooled in a traditional mortuary.

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  • How heartbreaking it must be to loose your baby so soon…bless this mum !! I can imagine this cuddle cot to be very helpful in the grieving process !

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  • I could not even imagine what a strong woman.

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  • How beautiful and how sad all at the same time. I think that the cuddle cots are amazing and it is stories like this that make me appreciate what I have got just that little bit more.

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  • I wish this was around when my first daughter was born, all i got was a glimpse of her as they took her away. Hope they can place these in most hospitals.

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  • Its wonderful that parents can be given the choice to grieve in their own way.
    When my Mum lost my brother she was not given a choice and all she saw was the colour of his hair.

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  • I’m so glad she got to spend more time with her baby.
    I wish the cuddlecot was around when I gave birth to my stillborn daughter many years ago

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  • Wow this is heartbreaking but a warming story for the gift of cuddle cots

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  • Sympathy to the parents of this little one whose life was taken far too soon. I had never heard of the Cuddle cots before. I know a Mum who lost 4 babies in total, 3 of them stillborn. The 4th one was due to go home within a week when he contracted a virus which somebody accidentally introduced to the nursery in the hospital.

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  • it sounds like the cuddle cot gave this mother and her family extra time with her beautiful baby boy and that it probably helped with the grieving process.

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  • How sad for this mum and her partner. So lovely that she got to spend time being a mum to her little boy

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  • Holding my newborn extra tight – I can’t imagine what this family are going through. Nothing could prepare you :'(

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  • I wish we’d been offered a cuddle cot.

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  • This is incredibly heartbreaking. I just can’t imagine ever being in such a situation.

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  • How heartbreaking but yet she was able to say goodbye in her own time.

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  • I had never heard of this “Cuddle Cot”. It’s surely helpful.
    I can’t even imagine how much pain this woman has suffered. During the pregnancy and after giving birth. :-(

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