Do you feel unappreciated as a Mum? Do you feel overwhelmed with trying to be the perfect Mother? Do you think that if only my kids were better behaved, I had more patience or I had more time then I would be a better Mum?
How many times do we feel these things and quite often all 3 at the same time!
Life as a Mum can be exhilarating, enjoyable and down right frustrating at the best of times.
I know and understand the warts and all of being a Mother as I am a Mother to four cheeky monkeys (as I call them).
I believe that we as Mothers all lead a very similar life journey together, from when our children are first born as we adapt to life without sleep and lots of worry. To trying to do the best we can with what little help we may have to raise our children into confident, happy and healthy children whilst dealing with all the ebbs and flows that life deals us.
As a fellow Mother, we need to let go of all these outside issues (and pressures) and deal with our own internal emotions about what is going on within us.
My husband says “Happy Mum, Happy Life”.
Over the past weekend, I had a major meltdown with my family! I was a screaming, illogical and crying mess! You know those times when it all gets too much and you just let it get the better of you?
Well this was me over the weekend.
I felt frustrated that no-one was listening to me, annoyed that I needed to do everything for everyone else yet no one would help me when I asked and exhausted from the constant pressures of trying to be the calm and best Mother that I envisioned myself to be!
After I had my much needed meltdown I felt relieved that I was able to get it all out, yet disappointed that it had come to this.
When I was able to step away from all the emotion, drama and my myriad of excuses I was able to look within to see what had led me to this meltdown! It was not the fact that my pre-teen and hormonal daughter was pushing the boundaries or that I needed to do a basketball, netball and soccer drop off and pick up. It had nothing to do with anything that was going on in the outside.
It had everything to do with what I was feeling on the inside!
On the inside I felt like I was not good enough (not a good enough Mother)! Which comes back to my old self-belief I have of myself (as a result of schoolyard bullying) that I am not good enough!
When I was able to see and understand that this was what was causing my outside meltdown I was able to deal with these internal thoughts to then rectify the outside situation!
At the end of the day, my meltdown would of happened regardless of what was going on in my life, because we all perceive and manipulate the outside to reflect our internal feelings! The demands of last weekend were no more or less than any other time in my life, I was just weakened on the inside by my internal emotions.
This is one of the biggest and important things that we as Mothers need to understand and address – our internal thoughts and emotional patterns.
Once we are able to fix the inside, then the outside will flow easier to allow us to feel more happy and capable with whatever is going on within our lives and our family unit.
What are you internal emotional thought patterns that keep you from feeling in control, confident and content with your life?