The bride said that her mother’s behaviour ruined the day and she is struggling to forgive her…
A devastated bride has taken to Mumsnet to share her frustration about the way that her mum behaved on her wedding day. The bride said that ever since her grandmother’s death, her mum has been struggling, but admitted that her outbursts and moodiness were particularly bad at the wedding and ultimately ruined the day.
A Tough Time
The bride says she has supported her mother over the past year without any recognition or thanks. “I’ve been her shoulder to cry on all year,” she wrote. “I’ve let her take her moods out on me…she’s been extremely demanding expecting my husband and I to be at her beck and call constantly. We did this as she was having a tough time.” The bride went on to say that on the day of the wedding, her mum threw a number of tantrums about everything from misplacing her handbag to the lack of attention her daughters were giving her. “I was getting into my dress and she was stomping round the house screaming and swearing,” the bride said. “I ended up sitting in the bedroom I was getting ready in trying so hard not to cry.”
After her behaviour on the wedding day, the bride says she has reduced contact with her mum and is struggling to forgive her. “I just can’t deal with her anymore,” she admitted. “How do I get over my disappointment that she couldn’t allow my husband and I to have one day of niceness?” Comments on the post said the bride was completely justified in her decision. “She’s horrible,” wrote one forum member. “You’re doing the right thing. She needs to learn she can’t treat people like this!” “She sounds immature and unstable,” said another. “About time she respected you and your sister as adults. She needs to grow up herself too!”
Even though grief can be incredibly complex and everyone deals with it in their own way, we think this mum was way out of line, especially when her daughter has been so supportive. We can only hope they’re eventually able to work things out!
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