The Empowered Mama shared some great tips to help mums let go of some of the burden and guilt they often carry.
Sharing on Facebook they wrote alongside a very honest photograph showing how some days Motherhood looks just like this.
“Baby won’t go down long enough for Mama to get clothes on, let alone dry her hair.
“So she finds herself standing there, mumming, cleaning, pacing, wifing, life-admin – whatever she can manage to do within the safety of the four walls. Praying to God the mailman doesn’t knock today.
“We’re always harping on about self-love and self-care here at The Empowered Mama, but whether we actually practice what we preach really depends on the day.
“Us Mamas need self-care to fit in with our busyness, not add to it!
“So I’ve been trying this really simple thing to reduce the pressure I put on myself – and surprisingly, it works!
“I feel like I’m being much kinder to myself, and ultimately respecting my own needs more.
Here’s what I’m doing.
“Every time I go to apologise for something in a colloquial way, I catch myself and rephrase before I say it. I shift my words from an undertone of self-criticism to external gratitude.
“Win win right? I don’t feel like shit, and the other person receives gratitude.
“How often do you say “Sorry I’m late”, “Sorry, I can’t do overtime”? Sorry, sorry, sorry – blame, blame, blame. Constantly shunning ourselves.
“I want my son to know it’s ok to be imperfect, but it’s important to be respectful.
So instead of saying sorry, try this instead -
“Sorry dinner is late tonight.” > “Thanks for being patient while I got dinner sorted.”
“Sorry, I can’t stay back at work today.” > “Thanks for offering me the extra hours, but I can’t do overtime today.”
“Sorry I’m late.” > “Thanks for waiting.”
“Sorry the house is such a mess.” > “Thanks for being the kind of friend that doesn’t judge a messy house.”
“Sorry I have to cancel our plans.” > “Thanks for understanding, this Mum gig is tough some days.”
“Sorry I can’t make it > “Thanks for inviting me, I can’t make it, but I really appreciate being included.”
The list is endless really. So give it a go. Make your #NewYearsResolution to be kinder to yourself!
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