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Article This Is Why Mum’s Need to STOP Being So Hard on Themselves!

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The Empowered Mama shared some great tips to help mums let go of some of the burden and guilt they often carry.

Sharing on Facebook they wrote alongside a very honest photograph showing how some days Motherhood looks just like this.

“Baby won’t go down long enough for Mama to get clothes on, let alone dry her hair.

“So she finds herself standing there, mumming, cleaning, pacing, wifing, life-admin – whatever she can manage to do within the safety of the four walls. Praying to God the mailman doesn’t knock today.

“We’re always harping on about self-love and self-care here at The Empowered Mama, but whether we actually practice what we preach really depends on the day.

“Us Mamas need self-care to fit in with our busyness, not add to it!

“So I’ve been trying this really simple thing to reduce the pressure I put on myself – and surprisingly, it works!

“I feel like I’m being much kinder to myself, and ultimately respecting my own needs more.

Here’s what I’m doing.

“Every time I go to apologise for something in a colloquial way, I catch myself and rephrase before I say it. I shift my words from an undertone of self-criticism to external gratitude.

“Win win right? I don’t feel like shit, and the other person receives gratitude.

“How often do you say “Sorry I’m late”, “Sorry, I can’t do overtime”? Sorry, sorry, sorry – blame, blame, blame. Constantly shunning ourselves.

“I want my son to know it’s ok to be imperfect, but it’s important to be respectful.

So instead of saying sorry, try this instead -

“Sorry dinner is late tonight.” > “Thanks for being patient while I got dinner sorted.”

“Sorry, I can’t stay back at work today.” > “Thanks for offering me the extra hours, but I can’t do overtime today.”

“Sorry I’m late.” > “Thanks for waiting.”

“Sorry the house is such a mess.” > “Thanks for being the kind of friend that doesn’t judge a messy house.”

“Sorry I have to cancel our plans.” > “Thanks for understanding, this Mum gig is tough some days.”

“Sorry I can’t make it > “Thanks for inviting me, I can’t make it, but I really appreciate being included.”

The list is endless really. So give it a go. Make your #NewYearsResolution to be kinder to yourself!

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  • Awesome way to respond instead of saying sorry all the time

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  • Just maybe todays mums are trying to fit too much into their day, and trying to be perfect. It is alright sometimes for the baby to cry just while you get dressed.

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  • I need to stop saying sorry, I use it so often and I feel really bad.

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  • Some think all you have yo do is get into a routine. Mums and also babies are individuals.
    You suddenly have your normal routine shattered by your little person. A lot of time is taken up just with feeding before you even think about the other things you need to do specifically for baby.

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  • She’s definitely not wrong there. Women have a bad habit of apologising, even when they aren’t at fault. It’s time we changed our thinking around it and stopped taking responsibility for everyone else’s problems.

    • Yes! I agree. I am guilty of this too and really need to start thinking differently and not saying sorry for things I don’t need to be sorry about

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  • The power of positive thinking and speech !

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  • Yes soo many more apologies after kids

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  • welcome to parenthood

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  • Yep I say sorry probably a bit too much.

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  • I love this article and agree. ‘Sorry’ is over used and mums need to stop saying it! :)

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  • I really like her idea – those examples are great.

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  • Great article and loved the examples given about the apology

    • Good examples and maybe mums can make their own lists?

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  • true friends dont mind as they know you are busy and have your hands full.

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  • I love this a great change of mindset

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  • I am always apologising for things like this and am going to try and start using some of the examples shown here instead

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