First-time mum reveals the terrifying moment something very unexpected happened.
First time Mum Eliza Curby, 27, had baby Charlie in January 2016. What happened just 6 weeks later was something both she and partner Ben were absolutely not expecting.
The young mum had always believed the old wives tale that ‘you can’t get pregnant if you are breast feeding’ but a surprise package in the form of being pregnant with twin boys (yes with a 6 week old) proved that breastfeeding is definitely not a reliable form of contraception!
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‘Breast feeding doesn’t do s***, this pregnancy happened, it is real’ Eliza told Daily Mail Australia.
‘I knew I was pregnant straight away because when I woke up it felt like I had been hit in the head with a baseball bat’. Eliza obviously had a Mum’s intuition because she had to take four pregnancy tests before one came back positive. We’re guessing she just had to know if it was really happening!
‘When we found out Ben’s face just went white,’ she said. ‘But for two or three weeks were in denial. Then I saw the obstetrician we had with Charlie and he confirmed it – I have never been so nervous in my life.’
‘My doctor actually uses me as an example for couples when they say they don’t have any contraception plans in place after the birth of their child.’
Three Of Everything
Now Mum to 3, Ms Curby said by the time her first born Charlie was a six-month-old she thought she had the ‘baby thing down pat’ but having to do it all over again with twins is ‘completely different’.
‘It is like I have had to start all over again. But now it is just everything in threes, three bibs, three baby seats – three everything.’
What MoM’s Were Surprised About During Childbirth
So with Eliza’s story in mind, we thought it would be interesting to compare stories with other MoM members to see what they found to be completed unexpected when it came to childbirth.
Here’s what just a few had to say.
Natasha on STITCHES …
“I wish someone had told me that the pain of being stitched up afterwards makes you nearly hit the ceiling and no one warned me of the sheer agony of going to the toilet after giving birth. I was completely unprepared for these things and they shocked and took the breath out of me…by the way expectant ladies, lavender or other soothing oils in a warm bath help to combat the pain and uncomfortable feeling down below.”
Brooke couldn’t believe a PLACENTA could be that difficult …
“Not knowing the placenta can cause soo many birth issues! My first labour was fine but with my second child the placenta wouldn’t come out and caused a lot of issues. I went into shock and was shaking. Lucky I knew that after bubs is born there is still work to do. But I never knew your placenta could cause soo much drama. I almost ended up in theatre after being pricked with needles and pulled and tugged by different midwives and Drs and to have two massive tears down there! It was soo painful and petrifying. But it finally came away after an hour of them trying everything.”
Des and many other mums made us laugh when they said NOT TO LAUGH …
“Not to laugh after your waters have broken! Its like you’ve done wee after wee and any movement too. Not the greatest feeling ever.
Who cares who sees you NAKED …
Des also mentioned that something quite unexpected for her was “even if there’s a room full of people you won’t care who see’s your naked body!”
Amie brought up something we never expect for our first bub and dread with the next ones … POOP!
“How you get told to push like you are pooping and the fact you may actually poop hahaha.”
No bonding …
Casey opened up and said she didn’t expect to not bond with her bub … “No one warned me that I might not bond with the baby. I felt so guilty and disconnected for a really long time.”
Samantha on VOMITING …
Samantha said, “I never expected the vomiting, especially at the beginning of contractions and just before you’re ready to push.”
Tammy reminded us all about the first time after delivery …
“The after delivery first pee and poo. I never expected that to be so …”
And who expects such drastic BACK PAIN …
Tracy said, Something unexpected for me was the back pain! OMG with my second child it was horrific during labour. At the time I had no idea that “back labour” was actually a thing.”
And while we’re on pain, Diane discussed after birth pain …
She said, “The after birth pains I felt were worse than the labour pains! Also I thought once you had baby your tummy went back to pre pregnancy size..how wrong was I lol”
Teela summed up the conversation wonderfully.
Reminding us all that every birth is different, everybody is different and every experience is unique. We love what she had to say …
“After 5 natural births. I accept that I know nothing. Each one is surprising and frightening. No matter how well it was planned, something that you never expected will happen. Nothing can prepare you.”
Any other important tips for new mums? What was the most unexpected part of childbirth for you? We’d love to hear your story.
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