May 8, 2020


To My Friend who is Dreading Mother’s Day, This Mother’s Day, I celebrate YOU.

I know this is a hard day. I know you are dreading it. I know it can be agonizing and painful. I know your heart hurts–it hurts on a lot of days, but on this day, it especially hurts. I know this day is just a reminder that your womb is barren and longing to be fruitful. Trust me, I know. I know that Mom’s every where are celebrated and you’re desperate to relish in a role so special and honorary. I know over the years you have formed a special place in your heart for your baby who has not yet come.

Friend, this Mother’s Day I celebrate YOU. I celebrate you because you are strong and brave. I celebrate you for not losing hope. I celebrate you because you are a Mama and we are just waiting on the Lord to work out every little detail. I celebrate you because fertility treatments suck and those bruises on your bottom from daily hormone shots remind you that your womb is not full. I know you are exhausted emotionally, physically, and mentally. My friend, I know.

I celebrate you because the scar on your tummy represents someone who you didn’t get to snuggle with for very long because he was welcomed into Heaven’s gates sooner than what you imagined. I know you’re grieving, Mama. I celebrate you because it takes a lot of bravery and a lot of strength to bury your baby. My heart breaks for your loss, Mama. On that day when your baby went to Heaven, I know it was heart wrenching-the ugly cry kind of heart wrenching. And even though you can’t snuggle your angel baby, you are still a Mom.

Mama, I celebrate you because even though your baby left your womb far too early in pregnancy, you are still a Mama. I know you were dreaming of her and planning every little detail of life as a Mommy. I know you think of her and what she would have looked like. I know this season may feel lonely. And I know that this Mother’s Day is hard. Mama, I want you to know that you not forgotten.

Mama, I am sorry the adoption process is taking forever and that it is such an emotional roller coaster. I celebrate you because you are patient and adoptions takes a special kind of Mother’s heart. I celebrate you because you have hope and you are an inspiration to so many.

Mama, I celebrate you because you take in kids that need a home until they find their forever home. I celebrate you because being a foster parent is not an easy job. I celebrate you because you show an unconditional kind love to children who so desperately need it.

Mama, I celebrate you because even though you haven’t actually given birth you are a Mom to many. You have a Mother’s heart and although your body didn’t stretch as a baby grew inside, you are still a Mama.

Friend, on this Mother’s Day, I celebrate you! I know it is a hard day. I know you just want it to be over. But I hope on this Mother’s day this, you will know that someone somewhere is thinking of you and celebrating the strength and bravery in you. It is okay to cry, Mama. You are not alone and although it is sometimes hard for us to fully understand the Lord in all His ways, I trust in the details of the story He has made for you.

I celebrate who you are. You are inspiring, strong, beautiful, and full of bravery. My friend dreading this Mother’s Day, even though your journey hasn’t turned out how you hoped or imagined it would be, you are a Mama and this Mother’s Day, you are not forgotten!


I once was you. xx

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  • I feel for those who have lost their mums on mother’s day. It must be really hard


  • I miss my mum on mothers day but as a mum myself I enjoy being with my boys.


  • It would be so hard for those who have lost their mums


  • Yes Mothers Day is a very painful day for me as I lost my Mother nearly 4 years ago now but I would have to say that Mothers Day is the hardest day of all


  • My mother is 84 and suffered Parkinson’s. hadn’t been able to see her for quite a few weeks due to covid19. I can’t tell you how thrilled I was when the 50km restrictions were lifted and we could finally be together again. There were tears of joy and much laughter. How precious our time together is and how grateful to have the opportunity to be together. So blessed ????


  • Mothers Day is always about remembering mother’s and their strength and struggles too


  • How beautiful!


  • Beautiful ! Let’s always remember all those Mama’s who’re aching, not just on Mother’s Day but always !


  • I remember my friends who are trying to conceive but can’t during this time and it breaks my heart because I know how good they would be as mums.
    But I’m also thankful that they have their mums still here with them.
    It can definitely be a hard time for some so I count my blessings all the time.


  • What a beautiful sentiment. I spent years not giving Mother’s Day a thought as I’m estranged from my own and had fertility issues, where I wasn’t sure I could have children. I was fine ignoring the day, but I get for others it really is foremost on their minds.


  • Since my Mum passed I tend to hide away more even though I have my own kids.


  • Lovely article


  • It is a particularly hard time for so many.


  • I have a friend who is desperate to have a child but hasn’t and feels terrible about mothers day each year. It’s really hard for some. I always give her a call and my husband and kids are great – part of my mothers day thing is that I am given the time to go and have a coffee with her each year.


  • Beautiful. It really is unfair; I hope everyone who so desperately wants to be a mother gets to be.


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