Do you want a fulfilling sex life, better health, better marriage and overall better self-confidence?

Research has shown that women who pleasure themselves are more likely to achieve all of this!

There are more than 1.5 million orgasms happening around the world every minute. Why shouldn’t you have one?

If you want to find that inner sex goddess and let her have a run around the block, then it’s time to be the master of your domain and take charge today.

Know your Body

It’s real simple, if you don’t know your own body, how can you ever expect your partner to ever satisfy you?

Firstly, we need to self-love.

That starts with getting naked in front of the mirror and staring at the beauty that is you! Learn to love your body. Focus on the parts of your body you love not those you don’t like.

Talk out loud, telling yourself ‘you are beautiful’, ‘you are an amazing lover’, ‘any man would be nuts to not want you!’

Never dismiss the power of the spoken word. It’s time to stop the negative chatter in your head and replace it with positive affirmations.

Once you do this you will see those around you treat you differently instantly!

It’s Time To Explore

Secondly, its time to explore. Whether this is with an intimate lifestyle product, manually or with the showerhead, get to know what works for you. Every single woman is completely different.

Heads up ladies, we do not come with a manual, so whether we like it or not, we need to communicate with each and every partner what we do and don’t like. Once you have mastered this, sit back and enjoy!

Stop Being Self-Conscious

Thirdly, by removing the negative chatter and self-conscious behavior, opening communication lines and loving the beauty of yourselves, we open ourselves up to a whole new world of pleasure.

You will never be self-conscious about letting him go down there again. Ladies, 85% of women orgasm only through clitoral stimulation, so don’t cut out your best avenue to success!

Speak out loud

Wouldn’t life be easier if we just started to talk about sex!

Talk with your girlfriends, talk to your mum, talk with your women’s groups, talk with your partner, but most of all, just start talking.

When it comes to your partner, we don’t come with a roadmap. If what you need is for him to move a little to the left, pull your hair when things get passionate or play out a fantasy, just say it out loud. Watch how things will improve.

Fantasies, fantasies, fantasies

These can be before your home or caught up with your partner or even get into an environment where you can pleasure yourself.

Start with thinking naughty sexy thoughts. The mind is a powerful drug. If you struggle to come up with mental imagery on your own, get a book or download whatever floats your boat!

Just reading this stuff sitting in a café or on your commute on the train home from work gives you that little kick to get you up and roaring!

The trick is, the more you think about sex the more you want it.

Now, you’re home and want to kick it up a notch, get yourself some sexy lingerie or better than that, a sexy corset. I hear you say you can’t afford it? I picked mine up online for under $10 with postage!

I have never worn something like this let alone done a full-blown strip tease before but what I found is the more I did it the better I got and the more fun I had. Those inhibitions dropped to the floor and hello sex goddess!

Explore and Experiment

Single? Why wait for a special occasion, treat yourself to a naughty special friend who will hit all the right spots.

Set the mood (yes when you’re alone) with sexy lingerie, a wine and the right sounds to get you in the groove and say hello to your new massager!

Have a partner? Why not try something new? Indulge in a few fantasies. Play dress ups, indulge in some light bonding or just a sensual feather.

Just remember this is now about both your desires so go have some fun and enjoy!


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  • Great article.
    Its hard to jump in boots and all but when you find the right partner it certainly makes it easier.


  • Haha I will never talk to my mum about sex! I’ve also never had an orgasm, i’ve tried everything. It’s just not possible for some people


  • Great read but I think my inner goddess died years ago


  • Self-love is not always easy to have.


  • There is no way I could have ever done this. I’m too inhibited and get embarrassed very easily. They are good ideas for women to try though.


  • I’m way too self-conscious to try lifestyle products plus I think it cheapens things as a poor substitute for the real deal.


  • Great article – makes a lot of sense.


  • Good read!


  • Thank you for great article.


  • The title of this article is a bit much.


  • Self love. When and where did that go? I desperately need some of that.


  • Is this really something that women discuss? I know some people would but I can’t imagine lots of people doing it. Definitely not something I would be happy to discuss


  • I think there are many things that can impact your libido; kids, exhaustion, full schedule, hormones. Whilst sex can be important we don’t need it to survive. And there are many other ways we can express our love.


  • Sometimes sleep becomes more important :(


  • And a good lock on your bedroom door to keep the kids out!


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