What’s on your mind? How is your attitude? What are you talking about? What are you saying to yourself?

Do you even know? Do you know if your thoughts, conversation, self-talk and attitude are mostly positive or negative? The answer will be evident from your outcomes.

Nobody likes being browbeaten. What would happen if a person continually picked on another? The person being picked on would gradually cower into the background and confidence and self-worth would be depleted to a point when they may feel too scared to do anything.

Negative Thoughts Stop You From Achieving Your Dreams

So often, this is what people are doing to themselves without even realising it! This is what you are doing to yourself when you choose to punish yourself with negative self-talk. Negativity such as fear, blame, doubt, excuses, punishment, procrastination, will have a harmful impact. What you focus on, grows. If you are often having negative thoughts it’s likely that you are limiting yourself and stopping yourself from achieving your goals and dreams.

Make A Conscious Choice!

Happiness will come from happy thoughts, which may be much easier said than done, especially during challenging times. However, when you catch yourself being negative, consciously choose optimism and turn your attitude around. Compliment yourself, recognise progress, have loving and good thoughts for yourself and others. Have an attitude of gratitude and talking kindly about others as opposed to gossiping is much more fulfilling. You will change your life for the better when you change your thinking for the better. Take charge of your thoughts, overcome negative thinking and reach for the stars!

As a mother, being positive not only benefits you but also those around you – especially your children. Don’t underestimate the influence you have on your family and friends. It’s not much fun being around a negative Nelly!

This coming week’s challenge:

Consciously be aware of your thoughts, conversation, self-talk and attitude this week. Is it mostly positive or negative?

If you catch yourself out being negative, do something physical to help you be aware of how often you are being pessimistic. Eg: do a squat (lower yourself down to a sitting position and get up again), or swap your watch to your other arm, etc, each time you catch yourself out. If you choose a squat, or run on the spot, or push up etc you will certainly know the next day how negative you’ve been! It also makes others around you be aware of their negative mindset – because they’re bound to ask you what you’re doing! Get your family involved, but make sure you’re the role model by leading a good example!

What are your tips to stop negative thoughts and encourage positive thinking? Tell us in the comments below.

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  • Some good suggestions in this article, I like in specific how you can make a conscious choice in this and take charge over your thoughts.


  • Sometimes I find my attitude can be influenced by the people I am around. If they are really negative, I find sometimes that I become rather negative. I am always trying to assess and improve my attitude and self-talk. Of course we are always going to have days we just aren’t feeling great and that’s okay too.


  • Just the article I needed to read right now.


  • I am kind of person experiencing this more often.I found doing more physical exercise and do some meditation helps lot.


  • Great article and gives me lots to think about.


  • Deep breathing. Meditation. Yoga. Writing my thoughts into a journal to clear them from my mind. All things I try to do regularly.


  • This is something I have struggled with a lot, particularly over the last eight months duet to some big life crisis’s.
    The number one thing I found that helped both myself and those around me that were also struggling was the tip of gratitude journalling daily.
    Making it a regular ‘habit’ makes you stop to think, ‘hold on’ – what do I have to be ‘grateful’ for – it kind of makes that ‘negativity’ hold bay and remind yourself that you have things in your life to be grateful for always. Make it a habit daily and it can help (even in a small way).


  • My daughter suffers from anxiety and negative thoughts. Wish there was a quick fix for her


  • Negative thoughts are scary and very hard to over come….having had PND and been in a dark place I know that there is light at the end of dark days and if negative thoughts are taking over seek help….


  • I suffer with manic depression and noticed I’ve been a lot worse since I lost my husband and had to give up work through chronic back injury. When I’m feeling really bad my son and I go out for a coffee at the local cafe.

    • Aw bless, that sounds hard. Good on you for not isolating !


  • I try to be honest with myself and catch myself out when I’m thinking that way and immediately think of three things I’m greatful for.


  • I’m going through this a lot lately, negativity is painful.

    • Aw bless you twinmumma, can you reach out to someone to get support ?


  • I’m a very can do person but lately I think why do I bother and what’s it really worth but then I thought nope pick that chin up and what is best for my family took a big step and did what I wanted now I’m having doubts but I know that’s not my thoughts that’s others I just have to keep telling myself it’s for better me


  • It’s definitely hard to be positive all the time but you need to tell yourself that things happen for a reason.
    I think the best thing is to not over think things when times are tough because you can get yourself into a big black hole. Focus on what’s important in your life and what things you have that make you happy.


  • Just what I needed to read. Sometimes all we need is a little reminder of what’s most important. Great advice!


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