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A dad-of-two thinks he did nothing wrong by letting his daughters walk to a nearby park on their own, and has accused his wife of being a ‘helicopter’ parent.

The 40-year-old dad says he and his 39-year-old wife both work from home the majority of the time, but do head into the office about once a week.

Because of their flexible work arrangements the couple doesn’t have daycare for their eight and seven-year-old daughters during the school holidays.

“Yesterday I was working from home and my wife needed to go into the office, the dad explained.

“We live about a kilometre from the girls’ school. They were bored yesterday afternoon and wanted to go play at the school playground but I had work to do and couldn’t take them. So I let them walk there and play by themselves. We live near a fairly busy road with a 70km/h speed limit and no crosswalks, so I walked them across that road and sent them on their way.

“We have a house mobile phone that I sent with the girls and told them to call me when they got to the playground and to call me again when they were headed back so I could meet them and we could cross the busy street together. They made it there just fine and called like I asked them to.

“About a half hour later my wife got home and wanted to know where the girls where. When I told her they were at the school playground by themselves she freaked out and immediately drove over there to make sure they were okay.

“They were fine and had made friends with a couple other kids who were playing there. My wife was quiet the rest of the night and laid into me as soon as the girls were in bed. She said it was completely irresponsible to let them walk all that way and play so far away by themselves and that I was jeopardising their safety. She thinks I’m putting them in danger. I think she’s being a helicopter parent. Am I the a**hole here?”

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  • I wouldn’t be ok with this at all. Unfortunately with the state of the world, I wouldn’t let my children do a lot of things that were probably deemed “safe” when I was younger.

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  • That’s a pretty long walk for kids that age. I don’t know if I’d allow my child to do the same. I can understand the mums reaction.

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  • I’m not comfortable with this at all. Even though they’re so close to home, it doesn’t take long for something (or someone!) To go wrong. Sadly, it’s just the world in which we live

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  • From my perspective, we are not living in a world where we can trust it to take care of our young children. Its not just a matter of busy street, there are so many other dangers lurking out there. I would freak out too if my husband did this. Fortunately, he wont ever be doing it cz he is even more vigilant than me when it comes to kids

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  • I’d say under the age of 12 I wouldn’t let them go by themselves

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  • If you ask me, its wrong. If you ask my husband, probably not.

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  • Definitely a bit young! My grandma lives across the road from a school and I used to go play there as a kid with my cousins but I think its important to have someone older to supervise. Even in that case a parent would always pop there head out to check on us. Personally I’d probably wait until my kids are atleast 12

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  • Sad that you can’t trust people these days but it is reality and not like the good old days

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  • I’d be really upset if my husband let my kids go anywhere alone. I watch too much true crime not be aware of what could possibly happen.

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  • You never know who is around when you let your kids go to the park alone, or who might be lurking around the area. Whether the park is right behind your house you should still be there. I saw some kids at the park yesterday around 4 and 6 years old they looked no one was around


    • Exactly ! My friends who’s now in her forties was kidnapped at age 6. She was lucky in ended well

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  • I personally don’t let my 12(boy) and 8(girl) yr olds go to the playground by themselves – I don’t think it’s safe not just because of adults but also some kids are just downright nasty mean individuals. If I go with them I take the dog as added protection. I don’t feel I’m a helicopter parent the world is a lot different to the world we grew up in.

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  • Probably a bit too young :( It’s such a hard one.

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  • They’re so young, i definitely wouldn’t let them go alone

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  • I get it if the park/school was just around the corner, but 1km away is a little far for the young girls.

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  • Kids that age don’t see the dangers yet in my opinio9n in regards to road safety and stranger danger awareness is not fully developed yet either, making them rather vulnerable.

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  • In this day and age – i dont blame her for being upset! I definitely need to have them in my sight

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  • They are pretty young to be out by themselves.

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  • I have to say it is tricky deciding exactly when your kids are old enough. But I would not let kids of this age go off alone yet.

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  • I probably wouldn’t have let my kids at that age as I personally even though you crossed them over the main road they haven’t yet developed the peripheral vision needed for crossing roads safely until around 10. At 10 it would depend on the children, the area you live ECT and I think that is different for every child. It is also something I think as parents you need to discuss together beforehand and be on the same page and provide a few scaffolding experiences first.

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  • To me this was a big no no. They are far too young and the world has changed from when we were kids. This would not be acceptable in my household.

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