Hello!

After working at home without children for almost 11 years and having the most ridiculous amount of business freedom one could ask for (and naturally didn’t realise until it was all gone) 9 months ago I added a baby to the mix.

FINALLY the ultimate test to income flexibility was here – working around children (or in my case child) so I could still be home for the mile stones and earn an income for my family.

I had the freedom to earn an income at home, around naps and snacks that so many mums are desperate for. I didn’t have to worry about bubs missing me at childcare, catching every disease known to mankind or trying to convince myself the childcare fees deducted from my pay was still worth working.

But this is what they didn’t tell you…..

They didn’t tell you not to be lured in by the sleeping 6 weeks newborn stage like I was. Its easy to work around a newborn. They eat and then sleep. You work. You have a fridge filled with donated food and people offering to clean your house because they are excited to be around your baby so no chores need to be addressed.  Even with night feeds (which I did 100% of) I still got a lot of work done during the day.

Working from home with a baby is easy! <——naive!

Until your bubs decides that they don’t like to sleep anymore. Then this shit gets a whole harder. They didn’t tell you that you will feel guilty as you constantly check your phone, tablet and or laptop for client work, messages, trying to book appointments and more whilst your baby eats, plays and tries to get your attention. That you would feel guilty for not giving THEM more undivided attention, but you have to make the most of the time when they are not screaming.

They didn’t tell you that you may have a baby that rarely sleeps.

So any work planned during “nap time” – such as being on the phone has gone out the window. However if some magical alignment of the moon and stars and planets with the right temperature, ambient light and sounds falls into place whilst you jiggle your baby and they fall asleep – the first thing you will WANT to do is SLEEP yourself. The only thing you can do is quickly try and squeeze 45min of work done before the screeching commences.

Although you already knew that your “work” day wasn’t going to end at 5pm like other working mums, what they didn’t tell you was that YOUR work day will likely end at 11pm.

Or midnight. Only to start again at 4am when baby decided they were feeling fresh as a daisy and ready to get up. By the way, “work” doesn’t include chores.

They didn’t tell you that shit that used to take you 10min, now takes you 5 hours.

That you may burst into tears when the printer is out of paper, the computer freezes or the dog barfs all over your carpet (as that’s just another freaking thing to do when you’re trying to send this report out!)

They didn’t tell you that you WILL have to let him or her cry for a few minuets whilst you try and send that email. The crying gets louder. The email is taking longer to send.  God your computer is a piece of crap.

They DID tell me that I wouldn’t want to work as much anymore. That my previous business focus would shift to being a mum. Nah – just think I will keep working on being the multitasking, streamlining, automating, efficiency master of the universe….no way am I giving up earning money from the couch!

Do you work from home? SHARE with us in the comments below.

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  • Time is not the same when there is a baby in the mix

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  • Yep this is all true!

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  • I worked from home prior to my son’s birth, right up to when he went to school and beyond. And, yes, he was a baby who didn’t believe in sleeping because he didn’t want to miss out on anything. He’d also wake numerous times during the night. So working at home was exhausting and at times I felt it would be so good to have a job where I could leave for the day and return at night. But, we got through it and the positives really outweighed the negatives.

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  • I am lucky that I don’t have to work from home but have done in the past and it sure is difficult so hats off to those who do

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  • I should imagine working from home becomes even more difficult if you have children and a partner also at home. I hope bosses are understanding

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  • It becomes so difficult with children/husband at home.

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  • I only ever worked from home when my children were older and at school so never had these issues as I was home alone

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  • An interesting read and an eye-opener for some about to undertake this path …

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  • I don’t work from home but thank you for the interesting article.

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  • And if they remain reasonably quiet for most of the day that they will become ridiculously noisy and demanding the moment you get on a business related call :)

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  • Thanks for the head’s up. I’m in the process of deciding whether to commence my business from home or let it go and travel a different path. This has given me some great food for thought about the juggling act that will be required.

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  • A mums job never stops indeed ! Think it would work best if you can separate your mothers role from your work and have set times (for example when hub is home or when baby sleeps or when you organize a babysitter) when you devote yourself to your job.

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  • It does all sound so easy until you do it – and one day you’ll look back and wonder how you fitted it all in.

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  • Yep, working from home is like navigating a ship in a cyclone blindfolded. Things just happen and you have to be flexible and adaptable and patient. I find that it’s just easier to be a mum during my kid’s awake hours and then actually work when they’ve gone to bed. That way no-one is resentful and I can put 100% effort and brain power into my work without being distracted and frustrated. Yes, it means long hours but owning your own business is hard.

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  • Ahhh yes, how tricky it was back then. I have worked from home since my son was a baby in varying forms, but thank God he started school. That’s when my motivation and real ability to work kicked in! When he was a baby, he didn’t want to sleep! He wanted to bang on my keyboard, so I gave him an old computer keyboard so he could be like Mum. I’m sure he sensed when I was working, and he didn’t want to sleep. In the end, I had to make a decision to be disciplined and work within certain timeframes. My Mum would take my son for a couple of hours, so I would use that time to work. Otherwise, it was frazzled, scattered, and so unproductive.

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