A new study says that banter and poking fun at your partner can increase relationship satisfaction and longevity.
We all know that having a good sense of humour is one of the most sought after traits when looking for a potential partner, but it turns out banter could be more important than first thought. Researchers from Appalachian State University found that couples who can roast each other have the happiest relationships – so long as they don’t take the banter too far!
All About Compatibility
Professor Geoffrey Hall from the University of Kansas reviewed the findings of the study, saying that they highlighted the importance of humour in sustaining romantic relationships. Professor Hall was quick to point out that the ‘humour’ the study refers to is not how funny the individuals in a relationship are independently of one another, but rather the humour they create together – basically, inside jokes and banter are key to a healthy relationship! “Say you and your partner share a quirky sense of humour, but romantic comedies or sit-coms do nothing for either of you,” Professor Hall said. “It’s not that any style or a sense of humour is any better or worse. What matters is that you both see quirky humour as hysterical. If you share a sense of what’s funny, it affirms you and affirms your relationship through laughter.”
What You Love Most
The study showed that it’s important for couples to be able to have a laugh at each others’ expense, without either person getting offended by the banter. “If you think your partner tells mean-spirited jokes, then it’s likely that you’ve seen that first-hand in your relationship,” Professor Hall said.
So if you think that Blake and Ryan have the perfect marriage, or John and Chrissy are couple goals, this study may have uncovered their secret!
Do you and your partner have a compatible sense of humour or share banter? Let us know in the comments!