It’s tough being a new mum – there are so many changes to your world. But take some advice from a more experienced mother – you don’t want your pre-baby body or life back. And here’s why!

Hey new mama,

You may be feeling like your whole world has been turned upside down.

You might be wondering what the hell you were thinking when you decided that having a baby would be a good idea!

You might be wondering if you’ll ever get a full night’s sleep again.

You might be despairing at the fact that you haven’t had a shower in a couple of days.

You might be dreaming of eating your meal when it’s actually warm and drinking a hot cup of coffee… 

A freshly made hot cup of coffee, not one that’s been reheated 5 times.

You might be missing your partner, because even though you live under the same roof, your lives are very different right now.

You might be looking at your reflection in the mirror and wondering what happened to your body.

You might be asking yourself: 

Will the stretch marks stay?

Why isn’t my tummy getting smaller again?

Will my loose skin ever return to normal?

You may be thinking that things will never be the same again.

And I’m here to tell you that they won’t be.

But isn’t that a wonderful thing?

I see so much in the media about mums ‘getting their bodies back’ after having a baby. Like they ever lost them in the first place?!

I don’t want to ever get my pre-baby body back, because that would mean that my 2 beautiful kids wouldn’t be here.

I don’t want to feel like I felt before kids, because my body is so much stronger now for having carried and birthed 2 (big) babies.

I wouldn’t want to be the same person I was before kids because I’m so much more mentally tough thanks to the ups and downs of day to day parenting!

I don’t want our mums who come and train with us at our studio or online to feel like they’re missing out because their bodies don’t look or feel the same as before they had kids.

I want them to feel strong, empowered and gorgeous BECAUSE they had kids!

So, new mama, although I don’t know if you’ll get a hot meal or a full nights sleep any time soon, what I can tell you is that the kinder you are to your body – the more appreciative and loving of it you can be – the better off you’ll feel.

A little bit of kindness for all of the sacrifices you’ve made to bring your kids into the world will go a long way.

Remember, your body has produced a miracle. Your body IS a miracle.

Do you struggle with wanting your pre-baby body back? Tell us in the comments below.

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  • I totally agree. I love my body for its amazing ability to have my three kids. I wouldn’t change it for anything!


  • I always wished to be skinnier and thought I would love myself more pre baby but since having my baby I love my body and myself more than ever. It has been such a wonderful experience and not only am I happier, I get my beautiful bundle of joy with it all.


  • I want my old body back, but I fear it’s long gone


  • What a lovely reminder. Although I do wish my hideous stretch marks would go…. :( I understand that they were born from my beautiful children, but they really do not give me much confidence!


  • I have been waiting 3 years to find it but I fear it’s not coming back at this stage


  • What a beautiful way of expressing how we feel with our post-baby bodies. I love it


  • My body supports my journey and shows some of the stories


  • I have no idea of what my pre baby body looked like.


  • What your body looks like now is your new normal, and who would want it any other way? Great article that makes a lot of sense.


  • I know everytime when i see the stories of other mums who get their pre baby body back make me want to do the same. But i find it’s very challenging for mentally and always hard to follow.


  • I am happy that we have a little boy!


  • I don’t remember what my pre-baby body was like. I was on IVF for so long which changed my body, then pregnancy, etc. so I forget what was normal. Now is my new normal. And I have a human to show for it.


  • I never rush in getting my pre pregnancy body back but even when I am back to my size I can’t remove the stretch marks so basically can never get that body back.


  • A healthy mindset is a good thing !


  • I’m definitely more comfortable with my body post baby!


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