I didn’t receive anything for Valentine’s Day last year. My husband and I have been married for 9 years in April (been together for 14!) and I just cannot see the point in wasting money every February on STUFF that is overpriced and useless, just to declare our sweet heartened love towards one another! If you ask me, it’s all a load of hoo-haa.

So I said no presents please. No flowers. No romantic nights out for dinner. No massage vouchers. No Jewellery. Although, I do think all these things are lovely, I just think its alot of nonsense pressure surrounding a date that we don’t even understand the full significant meaning of. We have no reason to make it a tradition, so we choose not to.

Save The Hoo-Haa for Another (Any) Day

I’d rather save the hoo-haa for our wedding anniversary – or just some other “no particular reason” occasion. That would mean more to me and be more spontaneous than the 14th of February every single year when everyone else is competing with how much their partners can out-do each other.

Anyway, without slogging the idea too much, love and thoughts to those who did receive lavish gifts and were surprised at the thoughtfulness of their partner on this vibrant love filled day! I am happy for you and hope that it was presented as a token of love and not just an obligation.

Why Only 14 Feb?

What I want to write about here, and ask you, is WHY should we limit the Valentine’s hoo-haa to February? Why not pick a DAY every single month, where you can declare your love for your lover and treat them the way they so deserve to be treated?

I know I wouldn’t complain, so I’ve put this idea together:

  • Put the numbers in a hat 1-31 (or however many days in the month)
  • Pick one out
  • Get your partner to pick one out
  • Then surprisingly.. on that day within that month – spoil your partner! And have them do the same!

It’s genius.

It would mean researching your partner more, understanding them on a deeper level, the things they love, the things they admire, the places they like to go, things they like to see, stuff they like to do…. it really is endless.

Oh my goodness – imagine how much life you can put back into your relationship (even if it’s full of love already – there’s always room for more). I don’t know too many people that would complain at feeling more special more frequently!

Ok, so if you aren’t married or partnered – look around… who can you do a nice deed for? Show some love, some appreciation… you never know the harvest you will reap should you be sowing the right seeds in the right conditions. How else are you going to get the flow of love happening in your life? It has to start somewhere right?

Well. Stop dreaming about it, you better get cracking. Decide right now … you have ALL year unspent. Do it!

And come back here and tell me your ideas. I want creativity, I want authenticity, I want the rest of 2021 and beyond to be the most Valentine filled year you’ve ever had (whatever Valentine means) lets go with LOVE.. the most LOVE filled year you have ever had.

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  • Sounds lovely if you have a partner that would be responsive


  • Love your idea of a random day to surprise each other


  • I always put a message in the paper on Valentine’s Day for my late husband (even won a weekend away for 2) but we celebrated our love every day. Whether it was a kiss or a hug when we got home or a little memento it was all the same to us.


  • Valentine’s Day is nice. A day dedicated to love. Ou can choose to be in it or not. But I like to show love to my hubby every day.


  • I agree with why we choose it for just one day.I feel this is just marketing.


  • We don’t do anything either but I love that idea!


  • I don’t care much about Valentines day but I care about my hub and spoil him with little things each and every day


  • Be kind to each other every day.


  • This is us 100% and every other occasion is more important to us to celebrate over Valentine’s Day


  • I don’t understand celebrating Valentine’s Day. Showing appreciation and love should be done everyday. For single people it can be hard


  • We dont celebrate it either


  • Wow, what a grump! My anniversary isn’t until September and we don’t go out a lot, so I really enjoy making Valentine’s special. I’m not huge on gifts but do love things that won’t clutter like flowers or massage vouchers and happy to get choccies for hubby. It’s a great excuse to lose the kids for a night and have fun being a couple.


  • February 14th is the day Valentine was beheaded for repeatedly defying the king, who refused to allow his soldiers to marry. We celebrate him putting love first, even knowing the consequences. THAT is the significance of the day. This year we aren’t buying gifts for each other. I purchased a box of Lindt bombs to share as a family. We will (as a family) make each other cards and treats and then spend the day showing love to each other.


  • We don’t celebrate Valentine’s Day, per se, we choose to have a ‘special’ day every month … why limit romance to just one day? Every month we have a day out or dinner, just the two of us, to celebrate our love – our birthdays, our anniversary, Valentines, Christmas and, if we run out of personal dates, we make something up! Lol!


  • Totally agree. We try to do date night once a month to make time for each other. We dont waste money on gifts we dont need on valentines day.


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