I didn’t receive anything for Valentine’s Day last year. My husband and I have been married for 9 years in April (been together for 14!) and I just cannot see the point in wasting money every February on STUFF that is overpriced and useless, just to declare our sweet heartened love towards one another! If you ask me, it’s all a load of hoo-haa.
So I said no presents please. No flowers. No romantic nights out for dinner. No massage vouchers. No Jewellery. Although, I do think all these things are lovely, I just think its alot of nonsense pressure surrounding a date that we don’t even understand the full significant meaning of. We have no reason to make it a tradition, so we choose not to.
Save The Hoo-Haa for Another (Any) Day
I’d rather save the hoo-haa for our wedding anniversary – or just some other “no particular reason” occasion. That would mean more to me and be more spontaneous than the 14th of February every single year when everyone else is competing with how much their partners can out-do each other.
Anyway, without slogging the idea too much, love and thoughts to those who did receive lavish gifts and were surprised at the thoughtfulness of their partner on this vibrant love filled day! I am happy for you and hope that it was presented as a token of love and not just an obligation.
Why Only 14 Feb?
What I want to write about here, and ask you, is WHY should we limit the Valentine’s hoo-haa to February? Why not pick a DAY every single month, where you can declare your love for your lover and treat them the way they so deserve to be treated?
I know I wouldn’t complain, so I’ve put this idea together:
- Put the numbers in a hat 1-31 (or however many days in the month)
- Pick one out
- Get your partner to pick one out
- Then surprisingly.. on that day within that month – spoil your partner! And have them do the same!
It would mean researching your partner more, understanding them on a deeper level, the things they love, the things they admire, the places they like to go, things they like to see, stuff they like to do…. it really is endless.
Oh my goodness – imagine how much life you can put back into your relationship (even if it’s full of love already – there’s always room for more). I don’t know too many people that would complain at feeling more special more frequently!
Ok, so if you aren’t married or partnered – look around… who can you do a nice deed for? Show some love, some appreciation… you never know the harvest you will reap should you be sowing the right seeds in the right conditions. How else are you going to get the flow of love happening in your life? It has to start somewhere right?
Well. Stop dreaming about it, you better get cracking. Decide right now … you have ALL year unspent. Do it!
And come back here and tell me your ideas. I want creativity, I want authenticity, I want the rest of 2020 and beyond to be the most Valentine filled year you’ve ever had (whatever Valentine means) lets go with LOVE.. the most LOVE filled year you have ever had.