I didn’t receive anything for Valentine’s Day last year. My husband and I have been married for 9 years in April (been together for 14!) and I just cannot see the point in wasting money every February on STUFF that is overpriced and useless, just to declare our sweet heartened love towards one another! If you ask me, it’s all a load of hoo-haa.

So I said no presents please. No flowers. No romantic nights out for dinner. No massage vouchers. No Jewellery. Although, I do think all these things are lovely, I just think its alot of nonsense pressure surrounding a date that we don’t even understand the full significant meaning of. We have no reason to make it a tradition, so we choose not to.

Save The Hoo-Haa for Another (Any) Day

I’d rather save the hoo-haa for our wedding anniversary – or just some other “no particular reason” occasion. That would mean more to me and be more spontaneous than the 14th of February every single year when everyone else is competing with how much their partners can out-do each other.

Anyway, without slogging the idea too much, love and thoughts to those who did receive lavish gifts and were surprised at the thoughtfulness of their partner on this vibrant love filled day! I am happy for you and hope that it was presented as a token of love and not just an obligation.

Why Only 14 Feb?

What I want to write about here, and ask you, is WHY should we limit the Valentine’s hoo-haa to February? Why not pick a DAY every single month, where you can declare your love for your lover and treat them the way they so deserve to be treated?

I know I wouldn’t complain, so I’ve put this idea together:

  • Put the numbers in a hat 1-31 (or however many days in the month)
  • Pick one out
  • Get your partner to pick one out
  • Then surprisingly.. on that day within that month – spoil your partner! And have them do the same!

It’s genius.

It would mean researching your partner more, understanding them on a deeper level, the things they love, the things they admire, the places they like to go, things they like to see, stuff they like to do…. it really is endless.

Oh my goodness – imagine how much life you can put back into your relationship (even if it’s full of love already – there’s always room for more). I don’t know too many people that would complain at feeling more special more frequently!

Ok, so if you aren’t married or partnered – look around… who can you do a nice deed for? Show some love, some appreciation… you never know the harvest you will reap should you be sowing the right seeds in the right conditions. How else are you going to get the flow of love happening in your life? It has to start somewhere right?

Well. Stop dreaming about it, you better get cracking. Decide right now … you have ALL year unspent. Do it!

And come back here and tell me your ideas. I want creativity, I want authenticity, I want the rest of 2020 and beyond to be the most Valentine filled year you’ve ever had (whatever Valentine means) lets go with LOVE.. the most LOVE filled year you have ever had.

romantic couple” image from Shutterstock
  • Hundred per cent agree here. We’ve never done Valentine’s Day. Exactly, why the hoo haa for just one day? Does that mean you can be arsehiles to each other for the rest of the year???


  • I have always agreed that VD gives people an excuse to only be romantic one day a year


  • Such a good idea I wouldn’t had thought of that !


  • love a bit of fun and a great idea


  • We would show our love to each other every day but we would just do that bit extra on Valentine’s Day. I’d prefer to go without Halloween celebrations which I don’t celebrate.


  • To answer why feb 14th, that’s the day that saint valentine was beheaded for breaking the rules and marrying people. As for showing love on any day, I’m sure people do in many different ways. As for the gifts. My husband and I are making home improvements and are calling that our valentines gift for the year!


  • Great suggestions, there are other types of showing love, not just romantic.


  • That’s a clever idea. I doubt we’d manage every month, but it’s worth a try.


  • I absolutely love this idea, I am definitely going to suggest this to my hubby


  • My Hubby and I tell each other that we love each other each day even after almost 30yrs together. It has become apart of our bedtime ritual and I suppose it is a habit. There isn’t a day that goes by where we will kiss as we pass each other while walking through the house or touch as we pass. I don’t need a special day to say I love you.


  • No, it shouldn’t be just reserved for that day. We love spontaneous romantic gestures and try to incorporate one ‘special’ day every month!


  • It is a good point- it is always much more romantic when it is spontaneous. That being said I do see Valentines Day as a good excuse to do something as a couple because we don’t often go out.


  • I tell my hubby I love him most days, and as we’ve gotten older Valentine’s Day has meant less to us in terms of celebrations (and a nephew’s birthday has taken priority). But, I do like to acknowlege it, and as a hopeless romantic, I enjoy seeing others celebrate it.


  • I agree it shouldn’t be just for the 14th of Feb. Rather then picking both a date to surprise each other I just like to leave it to spontaneity


  • It’s a great day to remind my hubby to do something nice!


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