January 13, 2020


The disappointed mum says she’s annoyed that her husband invited his parents on their family holiday without consulting her first.

An upset mum has posted on popular parenting forum Mumsnet after her husband invited his parents on their anniversary trip. Doubling as a family holiday with their two children, the mum said she was excited for some quality time with her husband and kids until he made the surprise announcement…

Six Is A Crowd

The mum said she was over the moon when her husband surprised her with the trip but that quickly changed when he announced his parents would be joining them. “Husband told me tonight that he’s booked our dream trip as a surprise to me,” she said. “I was ecstatic! So happy, so excited and so looking forward to it. I could have burst with happiness. He then tells me he’s also invited his parents along with us and they’re booked and staying with us. He booked it with them a few days ago.” We can completely understand this mum’s disappointment – travelling with your husband and kids is one thing, but adding in laws into the mix can be a totally different experience!

Just Needed To Ask

The mum says it’s not that her in laws are coming on the trip, but that she wasn’t asked before the decision was made. She says her husband was less than impressed with her reaction. “He started getting really defensive and talking about how much they do for us and love the kids and they’ll be able to help them whilst we are away,” she said. The situation took a turn for the worst when her husband packed his bags and went to stay with his parents following the argument. “He said I’m selfish, spoilt, ungrateful and a cow. I’m prepared to be told I’ve been terribly unreasonable, but I was just so desperately longing for some time as a family, no phones, no work, no one else – just us. Have I been awful? Should I have just faked a smile and accepted it?”

The lesson to take away? Surprise holidays are always a good idea, so long as it is the destination that is the surprise and not the company!

Do you think this mum’s reaction was over the top? Let us know in the comments!


  • No way would I accept that. Going to visit parents-in-law on holiday is one thing, but for a husband to invite his parents on a planned holiday without asking his wife is a no, no.


  • There are surprises and then there are surprises! I don’t think so. No way is that a holiday. She is well within her rights.


  • I’m sorry but I would have told him to have a lovely holiday with his parents. The other alternative would be to tell him her parents should go along as well. Different if they were staying elsewhere but staying with them? Not an anniversary I’d be looking forward to.


  • I would be furious if my hubby did that, I want a holiday AWAY from the family not with them.


  • Ohmygawd what about HIS reaction though!? What a hissy fit! Call me a cow, I’d be sending him to stay with his parents not letting him storm out!


  • Always, always, ALWAYS ask your wife about things like this!


  • No way! How selfish is the husband? It was more about him and not about her. He was just thinking his parents could babysit the kids while he was holidaying.


  • I completely understand her side. The not having it discussed would be what would annoy me the most.


  • I get where she is coming from butid also be pleased with him organising thehokiday and taking initiative


  • This is something my partner would do, so I understand her side


  • I get it from both points of view, he was trying to do something nice and if it was me I’d be dumping the kids on their grandparents and taking some day trips with just him. But I also understand her point too about just the kids and hubby. I think she should just put it into her head this is what has happened and agree to herself that regardless lose the disappointment and make the most of a lovely holiday away, knowing that it is in good faith and although not your perfect holiday one that she could enjoy all the same. Next time she can make the booking and surprise him.


  • He really should have discussed it with his wife first. I’m sure he wouldn’t really appreciate if it was the other way around and he wasn’t informed


  • I think it is something he should have discussed with her first. I get how my in-laws can help but that is something you should decide together. I have the complete opposite I want my MIL to come with us on our holidays but she prefer’s to stay home!


  • He should have definitely consulted her first. Regardless of whether they all get on or not, you just don’t invite others on a holiday without getting the okay from your partner first!


  • I swear I could spend a whole day writing personal examples siding with this poor mum! I totally take her side in this! Men are such mummas boys that they put their mothers ahead of their wives in most cases! I feel for her, I truly do. There’s nothing wrong with wanting to spend time with and reconnect with your husband and children! And for it to be done on her dream holiday, it’s just so sad! Any other holiday might have been alright, but this is like inviting his parents to walk down the aisle with the bride on her wedding day!


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