Her husband only admitted to having a vasectomy after she had endured three years of fertility treatments…

A devastated woman has posted on Reddit after discovering her husband has had a secret vasectomy The Daily Mail reports. The woman said that she was heartbroken after three years of traumatic fertility treatment was unsuccessful, and blamed her PCOS, until her husband finally told her the truth.

A Betrayal Of Trust

The woman says that the news came as a total shock. “After three years of painful, invasive and expensive fertility treatment, I find out my husband had a vasectomy before we met,” she wrote.

“He let me endure 29 negative pregnancy tests and numerous hormone injections and he never thought to tell me.”

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She says her husband chose to have the procedure to prevent his ex-wife from getting pregnant as he wanted to leave the relationship. “I’ve laid out the options: he gets it reversed, he agrees to me using donor sperm or we get a divorce,” she wrote.

“I love him. But I’m broken. And given his lies, I think we are better off not married.”

We think that if nothing else, this couple has lost all trust…

Selfish And Thoughtless

Comments on the post said that the woman was right to consider leaving her husband.

“This guy is straight up TRASH,” one wrote.

“Certified absolute garbage. How do you let someone you supposedly love go through all that?”

“I hope she leaves him. This is unbelievable.” said another.

“A lot of people I know with PCOS are already very stressed about their chances of being able to conceive and his a**hole made it worse for his wife.”

This husband sounds like he has serious commitment issues! We can only hope that he comes to his senses and decides to be supportive of his wife or has the courage to admit he doesn’t want children whatever the consequences may be.

How would you feel about your husband having a secret vasectomy? Let us know in the comments.

  • That would be an unforgivable betrayal of trust. No way would I stay.


  • What a POS… as soon as she said she wanted kids when dating before they got married He should have told her.. To let her go through all of that and spend all that money just for him to keep that to himself and knowing full well she wouldn’t get pregnant… leave this guy seriously


  • There aren’t many words to describe the indescribable lack of trust in the relationship. She deserves to find someone that is honest with her. This is not a small betrayal, and it also went for a long long time.


  • It should be both of you decision not just one person in relationship


  • Disgraceful, dishonest and disrespectful, better lost than found.


  • Wow that’s a huge thing pity he didn’t discuss it


  • This is so devastating. To be let down by your partner in that kind of way – the emotional turmoil and lies. It is inexcusable.


  • Marriage is all about trust on each other, he should have told her after they got married about his procedure. He did the surgery because he don’t want kids from his ex wife but what about current wife, I guess he just want to get, away from commitment. She should think about this.


  • I just don’t understand how you let your partner go through the heart ache of getting when he knew it want going to happen


  • Everything about that story seems wrong! Although the question was, how would I feel… if we didn’t already have kids, I would have left his arse… Now we have 2 beautiful boys and had 2 traumatic pregnancies and births, I wish he would! Lol


  • Not only has he put her through all that painful treatment, look at all of the money they spent when he knew it wouldn’t work. Either he’s a spineless idiot or he likes to see her distraught. I’m sorry she’s had to go through this but I’d definitely leave him. How could you trust him about anything now.


  • Disgusting lying to her and puting her threw all that treatment


  • So big secret.


  • Wow, I can’t believe anyone could do that! All the expense and stress just to keep his secret. So crap.


  • mind blowing


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