The mum-of-two said she can’t understand why her partner of almost ten years won’t commit and doesn’t want to marry her…
A frustrated mum has taken to Mumsnet asking if she is being unreasonable to be upset about her partner’s recent announcement that he doesn’t believe in marriage. The mum says that she always assumed they would marry, especially as they have been together for almost a decade and have two children together, so was devastated when her partner ruled it out.
The mum says that she can’t help but feel hurt by the decision.
“I’ve never been a massive marriage advocate but I can’t help but feel really depressed and down about it,” she admitted. “It’s like he doesn’t want me or take our relationship seriously.”
The mum says that she feels rejected and is taking it personally despite her best efforts.
“There’s this feeling of rejection, like the man I love doesn’t love me enough to marry me,” she wrote.
“I communicated this with him and he…said that his not believing in marriage is not personal and that he felt a little offended because I seemed more bothered about marriage than just being with him.”
It sounds like this couple should have had an honest conversation ten years ago about their feelings towards marriage…
Comments on the mum’s post highlighted the danger of making assumptions.
“I am mildly astounded you’ve got ten years behind you and it’s only just come up!” wrote one disbelieving commenter.
“Unusual for his feelings to be a complete shock at this stage.”
“Well if it doesn’t mean anything to him then a quick trip to the registry office won’t be a huge problem since it means something to you,” another pointed out.
While we really sympathise with this mum and can completely understand why she feels rejected, we find it hard to believe that such a huge difference of opinion hasn’t been discovered much sooner! Here’s hoping the couple can work it out…
Have you and your partner had a difference of opinion when it comes to marriage? Share your story in the comments.