A NSW woman has sparked a fierce debate after revealing she’s “gutted” she can’t meet her new niece due to her sister in laws “NO VAX NO VISIT” rules. Do you think it’s fair?

The woman’s vent caused a heated debate online, after complaining she wouldn’t be allowed to meet her baby niece — because she refused to get her flu vaccination.

The woman posted her dilemma on a Sydney mother’s Facebook group this week, asking the members if she was being selfish by not vaccinating her family against the flu before meeting her brother’s new baby.

The woman told the group she had just received a birth announcement reminder from her sister-in-law.

The mum advised any friends and family wishing to visit the new baby to “Please see your doctor for info about receiving the whooping cough and flu vaccines”.

“If you can’t or choose not to, that’s cool!” the note read.

“Little Miss will be waiting to meet you after her immunisations.”

In large print, the message could not be clearer — NO VAX NO VISIT.

“Please don’t visit if you are sick,” it concluded.

birth vax note

While her family was up-to-date with most vaccinations, they had made the decision not to get the flu jab this season, and she was devastated that she wouldn’t be able to meet her brother’s child for almost two months.

“I am becoming an aunt for the first time and my son is so eager to meet his new baby cousin,” she wrote.

“Now we’re being told we can’t meet (her) until the six week mark.”

She added that she understood her sister-in-law was trying to protect her new baby, she said she couldn’t understand why she was being so strict about a simple flu vaccination.

“My brother was welcome at the hospital when I had my son and held him and bonded with him,” she said.

“I feel like I should have the same experience. I’m absolutely gutted.”

Her post attracted hundreds of comments with many telling them the baby’s life was more important than her first cuddle.

Do you think her vent is relevant or selfish?

Share your comments below

  • If you have seen whooping cough first hand you wouldn’t query this. Mums have to follow their instincts and time to see the baby later.


  • agree with the parents – i did the same thing with my kids. most people were cool with it and my entire family went and got the whooping cough vaccine.


  • I agree with the parents in this situation. They are just protecting their baby. Surely anyone who chooses not to have their vaccinations can wait a few weeks. There will be plenty of other opportunities to bond in the future.


  • I completely agree with the mother of the newborn in this case. It is her decision and she is only trying to protect her baby.


  • The parents have the right to protect their baby from getting a potentially fatal very cruel disease until old enough for vaccination. It is bad enough having a baby with severe croup – coughing continuously and having trouble breathing – at least it is not contagious. Babies don’t have a strong immune system when they are small. A lot of older people have poor immune systems too. It is inconsiderate or anybody who has not been vaccinated to have contact with babies, especially those who are too young to be vaccinated.


  • The point here is choice. Parents have made a choice and she is making one too.


  • Each person has their own point of view and I can see it from both sides.


  • I can understand both sides of view, but knowing that whopping cough is such a horrible thing for a little baby to have then I would be as protective of my child getting it – so I think it is fair – no one wants to be sick with a new born baby nor do they want that new born getting sick – I don’t think it’s too much to ask if your sick to not visit (really to me that is just common sense!) – with regards to the no vax no visit this seems to be the norm now for our society!


  • I can understand both sides.
    Hope this mum still gets visitors.


  • 100% on mums side here. Babies have DIED recently from both whooping cough and the flu. If you care in the slightest about your niece thrn you wouldn’t even think about it. You’d just do it. You just have to look at how common vaccine preventable diseases are at the moment (can anyone say measles?) to know we don’t have the herd immunity that babies and other immunocompromised people need. Babies get SOME protection from their mother. But its certainly no guarantee of immunity to anything.
    Get your damn needles and stfu.


  • I think the parents have every right
    And I believe the SIL is over reactingif you want to see the baby, have the vaccines simple


  • It’s fine though fairly harsh to deal with I’m sure if the parents think it’s good to do this then it’s their responsibility


  • Clearly, this is a new thing. I understand it, but I don’t fully agree with it. But, as parents, they can manage this the way they see fit.


  • Really it is up to the parents what rules are in play. It is their baby and they need to think about her before others thoughts. Yes it is hard not being able to see the child, maybe ask for some photos. Not the same but at least you know what she looks like.


  • Your SIL is trying to protect her baby until she has had her immunisations. I don’t think she is being unreasonable about not letting anyone see the baby until that time. If you are that desperate to have a cuddle then have the flu shot, otherwise wait until the six weeks are up.


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