Mum asks if it is wise to hire a teenage boy to babysit her young girls.
Mum shares, “We are thinking of getting a babysitter for our kids (girls aged 5 & 7) for this Saturday night. We don’t often get a babysitter so not that experienced with picking one.
“When I put a post up on one of the babysitting groups, I got a reply from a teenage boy who lives close by and was keen to babysit.
“He got quite a few recommendations but I just feel a bit weird and uncomfortable having a young boy look after my little girls.
“Am I being completely old-fashioned and silly? Would you use a male babysitter for your kids?”
Mums share their concerns
One mum said it was just totally sexist to feel that way, “Of course I would. Sexist much? Girls hurt children too. Its not a male specialty you know. I honest to god cant even believe i read that question in this day and age.”
“Of course I would! But I wouldn’t trust anyone with my kids without meeting them, and having them meet my kids first.”
“Way to be sexist.”
“This kind of thinking really boils my p!ss. We all fight for equality within our world and this type of thinking drags us back down.”
“You know what? I find males better than females to look after my kids! They are just more fun and down to earth. I wouldn’t be worried. Meet him first and call some references. You might find he is a great fit to your family”
“This makes me annoyed. Why wld a teenage boy be any different to a teenage girl? Boys are sweet, sensitive, caring and my 14yr old is a great babysitter. Poor kid…”
“This saddens me as a mother with only sons. I hate that because some men do the wrong thing that we as a society now judge most men with the same questions. At the end of the day gender does not define if someone is a good, responsible human or not. That comes down to them as an individual, who they associate with and how they behave. I had a horrible female babysitter when I was a kid. She was nasty as. But the male who babysat was always great fun and would take me to play sports”
Meanwhile some mums also shared similar concerns to the OP.
“I don’t think it’s old fashioned. I think as a mother of both boys and girls we tend to worry about our girls a little more. I personally would worry about my girls with a male baby sitter and especially a teenage one as I know how teenage boys can be when their hormones kick in. I am not saying anything would ever happen just that I would not feel comfortable and could not enjoy my time out if I were worried. In saying that I wouldn’t allow anyone I don’t know personally to baby sit my kids period!”
Another said, “Its not sexist dude. I have three girls. Only guys I’d let watch my girls are my brothers. You have to be careful about men being around girls. I mean yes. Women hurt kids too but its much less likely. I’d have to meet the kid. Have parent meetings to make sure he is ok and watch him with my kids as a trial run to make sure he ok.”
“I wouldn’t even consider having a teenage boy watch my children let alone little girls. No way.”
” ah hell no sorry i would not be letting no teenager boy or girl look after my kids. Choose very wisely & follow your gut instincts, it’s a crazy world out there & you need to be very careful when it comes to leaving your kids with strangers!!!”
Is It Odd?
A discussion on reddit recently attracted some attention after reddit user Yuioir asked, “Is it odd to have a teenage guy babysitting my kids?”
“My friend told me that she’d never hire a male, especially a teen, to babysit, because it’s too risky and dangerous,” she wrote. “Several of my other friends agreed with her, saying that they only hired women to babysit their children. Is that the general consensus on male babysitters? Why does it seem that being teen boy automatically makes you dangerous to kids? Shouldn’t we judge people based on their characters, not their age or gender?”
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