The Birds and the Bees: or ‘the talk’ as it is commonly referred to, is a daunting conversation for a parent to consider. What age should your child be? When is it appropriate?
One day, coming soon to a child’s lips near you is…. the question. ‘Mummy, how is a baby made?’
You know you have to have an answer. The stork won’t cut it. It’s not the 70’s anymore. You can’t pretend like Moses’s drifting down a river in a basket. You need to face it (your child) head on and say that word….Sex.
Now there is that can of worms I’d been looking for.
Believe me, it doesn’t have to be overly awkward. I’ve been there, twice, and I’ve got one more conversation to go ahead of me yet.
But know this. It is one of THE most important conversations you and your child will have.
- Building a foundation of trust. Trust that you will tell them the truth. No matter how awkward and difficult. If you find a way to dodge the correct answer you will be doing your child a disservice. They look to you for answers. You created them, in most cases that is. If you didn’t personally create them, you probably know how they were created.
- They won’t say dumb stuff in the school yard. Hopefully they won’t be talking about it in the school yard anyway, but who am I kidding? Of course they talk about it. Imagine the things they will believe, hear, imagine and possibly do without knowing the truth.
- Basic knowledge of human creation. Isn’t it a good thing to be educating your child with foundational lessons? Such as how the human species reproduce? I myself find it miraculous! All of the different ways a baby can be created these days. Natural conception, IVF, the use of a donor. Brilliant, engaging and interesting information for a child to know. Believe me it doesn’t hurt them, because knowledge is power.
- It opens the door to talking about what is theirs and no one else’s to touch or see. Safety. If they don’t know, how will they know? As a mother, I feel responsible for my children’s safety. We all do surely. The ‘private parts’ conversation is the perfect time and easily reiterated whilst explaining the birds and the bees.
The best advice I can give you is to be prepared. Buy yourself a book to assist you when it comes the time. I bought my book when my daughter was two and kept it aside until she was 8. I was prepared. I have also written a book called 21st Century Guide to the Birds and the Bees, click here for more information.
Have you had ‘the talk’ with your children, how old were they? Please share any tips in the comments below?