Starting school is difficult for everyone involved and can lead to children and parents feeling anxious. Kids, in particular, are very prone to this however. Here are 5 reasons kids become anxious about school and a few ways to help them deal with it.

1.  Fear of failure

Many children have an innate fear of failure. They fear that somehow they will bring shame to their parents if they do not succeed in everything they do. Make sure that you talk to your children, and let them know that you can’t win every race, and there are going to be times where you will lose, and going to be times where you succeed.

2. Not having friends

Starting school or a new school can be a stressful time in regards to meeting new friends. Children may not be used to socialising with a wide variety of people. Make sure that your children are aware of how to make friends at school, and help them through tough times when they feel like you are the only one they can turn to.

3. Test and grade anxiety

With the beginning of school comes testing and grades. Many children, right up to their final year, feel anxiety stemming from grades. Children need to be made aware that while grades are important during school, they are not life-determining things, and there is always the opportunity to do whatever you want.

4. Sporting ability

Let’s face it, not everyone can be sporty, and this alone can make some kids very nervous. Let your children know that not everyone is sporty, and they are not alone in feeling this anxiety.

5. Facing situations on their own

This is a big one. Children have always had their guardians there for them when they had a problem. Now that they are at school though, they have to be a little more creative. They need to sort their own problems out and look after themselves. Making a good group of friends at school can help them greatly, as they will then have people to look to for assistance to problems.
Let us know how your child coped with starting school or even just starting a new school!

Does your child get anxious about school? How do you help them cope with this anxiety? Tell us in the comments below.

  • My son used to get anxious in the lead-up to a new school year. He is on the spectrum with Aspergers and it was the change and the unknown. So we worked on many things – familiarising him with his teachers, his class mates, would organise a personalised meeting with my hubby, son and I with all of his teachers to work through his challenges. This worked for us.


  • In Grade 2 this year and he hasnt seemed anxious so far, but i believe as he continues through schooling this will definately change!


  • I’m waiting to see how my daughter handles grade 2 this year. Her 2 besties are in the same class together and she is in a different class without any of her close friends. Hopefully they will still play together at lunchtime or she will find some nice friends in her new class. My daughter isn’t showing much anxiety yet…Hopefully she will remember what we spoke about – great teacher and a couple of friends from her prep class are in her new class, so she isn’t totally alone.


  • Not having friends and big expectations from other will be the biggest fear


  • My kids don’t get anxious about school in general, just specific situations occasionally. That’s actually pretty easy to help with.


  • Having a few friends also going to the same school helps immensely – and telling your children that you just want them to do their best also helps. When they come home from a test and are upset, if you ask did they do their best and they say yes – that’s all anyone can ask for – and once they realise you are happy they are doing their best, they will settle down quite quickly.


  • This was the first year where my daughter did actually cope with returning to school the previous years have been nightmares


  • A whole new environment, a whole new bunch of fears. But that’s what makes us stronger if we are able to face them and have the right support


  • I always told my boys that what I expected from them was to do their best at whatever they did. I never expected them to top their class or become a scientist or anything famous. They always knew that if they worked to the best of their ability then to me they were huge successes. I’m pleased to say that my Grandchildren were brought up the same way.


  • I definitely suck at sports and tell my children that ALL the time! I always came last in races and I’m still ok! But testing anxiety for me is so bad I can’t even believe my name is spelt properly. In uni I was tracking for a high distinction all through a class but my exam anxiety dropped me down 2 grades to a credit! I’m hoping my children take heed of their daddy’s advice to me, which was “if you fail, you can always repeat the unit/class”


  • It’s all about communication. Listening to what your child is saying and giving them simple solutions and reassurance.


  • I often worry about my daughter as she can tend to be a bit of a loner like me. She does seem to play with other kids sometimes but others she will close up. My son starts school this year but I don’t think there is any worries there, he is very social and seems to get along well with the kids at daycare.


  • My boy is too young for school but I know I could relate these to myself when I was at school


  • My kids are to young for school but i hope they will be fine if the times come


  • I was lucky with that, I must admit. My daughter has never been an anxious person, and she has never had problems facing tests and exams. She has surely taken from my husband, because I am quite anxious instead.


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