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Blair McDonough welcomed his second child last month, and the former Neighbours star has taken to Instagram to share a very honest perspective on fatherhood.

“Bonding is a tricky thing,” he wrote beside an adorable selfie with newborn baby Van.

“Took me a number of weeks to bond with Leni when she was born and with Van at just over four weeks it’s starting to happen. It’s a welcome relief.”

“As I said, a tricky experience to go through,” he continued.

“He’d been unsettled since 4am and when he hit my chest at 6am he immediately calmed and fell asleep. He’s been snoring in unison with Mum for the past hour and it’s been absolutely lovely. I thought it was timely chance to show some Insta-truth more so than the default Insta-happy.’

“Mothers are phenomenal, but here’s a shout out to the Dads, both new and old. #VantheMan.”

Did your partner find it difficult to bond with the baby?

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  • It’s definitely harder for dads to bond. They don’t have that instant connection from
    Carrying them for 9 months and them Mum is breastfeeding which makes it harder for dad to bond too as there just isn’t as much time for them

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  • So very true. Very touching

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  • Think the difference with fathers and mothers is that mum has carried the baby for 9months in her womb and literally shared her blood through the cord, baby and mom were one and wired and responded to each other. Fathers do not have this and have to start bonding after birth

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  • A good read and very honest.

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  • Noone really talls about this and everyone thinks bonding is instant but its not always. And thats ok!!

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  • It is hard for the partners, especially if mum breastfeeds because bub really does depend on her, perseverance really does pay off especially if mum is tired and stressed because dad/partner is usually a bit calmer and less stressed which helps bub calm better. Keep trying, keep snuggling keep loving, it will come

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  • It’s so amazing to these stories of truth and reality. Shout out to Mums and Dads who are honest and open about their real battles with parenthood.

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  • Glad he shared as I’m sure there are plenty of people who can relate and felt islated because they thought they were alone

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  • We didnt have any issues bonding with our son, but it would be hard if that feeling wasnt there. Good on him for being open and honest

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  • It can be hard at time bonding, I am glad that we can get a male’s view.

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  • Yup, newborns are very hard!

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  • It’s good to have an honest male opinion rather than just Mums.

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  • I didn’t with either of my too, but my ex didn’t bond with our youngest and still hasn’t and he is 2 1/2

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  • Not really difficult but he did say that bubba preferred me :D :D haha

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  • Everyone is different and good to know it’s ok not to feel an instant bond the second they are born and very common to take a while to bond.

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