Kindness makes you happier and healthier and it starts with yourself, if you’re focusing all your kindness onto others and ignoring you then in the end it will make you feel tired and resentful.
To be truly kind, we need to slow down a bit and take the time to be more aware of ourselves and other people. But in our over-busy world that can be a challenge.
If you’re like most Mums, life is pretty full on – working, kids and all their activities, maybe you’re hoping to meet the person of your dreams, a busy social life and keeping with all those Facebook and Instagram posts. Then there’s our natural tendency to put our hands for that extra thing – a fun run, organising a play date. Why do we think we’re the only ones who can do this?
We can start to bring more kindness into our whole lives by cultivating feelings of positivity towards ourselves. Think about the people you love and how your treat them – doing things to help them, hugging them, making them feel special, safe and secure. How often do you that for yourself? It’s easy to be dismissive of our own health, our time.
And, really, it starts with baby steps. Start to notice small things that are positive, quite ordinary things.
- How lovely your baby smells
- The soft fur of a pet,
- The wind caressing your cheek,
- Birds chirping overhead,
- Sand between your toes
…. At the end of day just jot down some of these things, aim to make a list of 10! Don’t stop at 4 or 5. Do this every day for several weeks and remember even the smallest things. And you can write the same thing every day it doesn’t matter. What matters is we noticed the little pleasures.
Then see after while if you can expand this kindness out to others. Small acts of kindness towards others help us to connect and that’s good for our overall health and well-being. These are few things that you can do and notice how they make you feel.
- Pay for a stranger’s coffee
- Phone a friend just to see how they’re going
- Give someone your favourite book
- Show gratitude to the bus driver, the shop assistant, your barista
- Smile at everyone you see
As we begin to practice being kind to ourselves and other notice how it makes you feel. Keep the following in mind: Kindness isn’t weakness or self-serving, it takes courage. It’s easy to slip into sentimentality or pity and if you feel that then maybe just do things for others with a light touch. Remember to maintain the balance between giving and receiving.
How do you practice kindness? Share with us in the comments.