Claiming her sister ruined her big day, this bride shared an unsent letter she wrote to her sibling telling her side of the story.

An Irish bride has shared a letter she wrote to her sister almost a decade ago detailing her heartbreak after her sister allegedly ruined her special day. The bride said that her sister’s engagement announcement a mere six weeks before her own wedding was a selfish move that saw her having to scramble to organise everything herself.

A Stressful Time

The bride told Radio 1 host Ryan Turbidy that she had never had the courage to send the letter. It read, “Dear Sister, It is now six and a half weeks to my wedding and I’ve been putting together invites and trying to get them off in the post. It’s a very stressful time and I’ve had to compromise my wedding plans for a lot of people I don’t know. To top it all, I’ve spent the last two days crying over things I shouldn’t be. Now don’t get me wrong. I’m happy for you. I’m delighted you’ve found someone who makes you happy and who you wish to spend the rest of your life with. But could you not have waited another six weeks before announcing your engagement?”

Completely Overshadowed

The letter went on, detailing the bride’s distress that her sister and fiance had not spared a thought for her feelings about the timing of the engagement announcement. “I’m so hurt that neither you nor your fiance thought for one moment about the impact it would have on me and mine, it should be our time to shine and our wedding, and you have thoughtlessly taken that away. I hope nobody does to you what you’ve done to me.”

The time leading up to a wedding is a sensitive time, so we really feel for this bride, especially because she has carried these feelings around for so long.

Do you think this bride was justified in feeling so upset about her sister’s announcement? Let us know in the comments.

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  • Move on ladies – there’s more to life.


  • Very thoughtless. There was no need to do that.


  • Be grateful she didn’t announce it on the day of your wedding!
    Sometimes things are sent to test us and make us stronger.


  • Nar I don’t see it,


  • I don’t really understand how an engagement announcement overshadows a wedding, maybe there is more here that is not being said?


  • Oh no, a bit princessy I think. I’ve recently been reading a few stories about Duchess Catherine and Duchess Meghan reportedly overshadowing each other with their publicity stuff. Get a grip woman, she’s your sister, it’s only a wedding and an engagement. 6 1/2 weeks til the big day and your just sending out invitations?!?! No wonder you’re stressed leaving it all til the last minute


  • I’m struggling to see how the bride wasn’t over the moon happy for her sister. It didn’t happen on her wedding day and there was weeks in between the announcement and her big day. I guess there is always two sides to every story


  • If it was one week before the wedding then yes I’d be very annoying. That’s inconsiderate.
    Six weeks before is fine, is plenty of time for that to settle before the bride’s big day


  • Why do so many brides think that everyone’s life revolves around their wedding. It’s one day, get over yourself. Seriously.


  • IMO she’s over-reacting. Six weeks out is fine and how did it affect her Wedding? And she’s still thinking about it a decade on, wow.


  • I kinda think I’m on the bride’s side. She would’ve been getting things ready still for her wedding and it sounds like she was involved in the organisation of her sister’s wedding. If that’s so, it’s a bit selfish.


  • Reminds me of something that happened with my sister and I.
    I got engaged the day my niece was born – oops!
    Double celebration?


  • keep calm! it’s over and cannot be undone. just be happy that your lives are blessed.


  • I think that is a bit silly! She is overreacting it’s not a competition. You should be happy for her!


  • very selfish


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