Whilst I agree that gender disappointment can be a real thing for some, I don’t understand why you would post it on social media

Wow, its pretty sad that someone is so upset about having a baby. I guess she’s just expressing how she feels tho, we’re all entitled to that

Why have a gender reveal if you had any thought that you’d be disappointed?

I grew up reading that the perfect family consists of a Mum and Dad plus a son and daughter. I have 2 sons and my eldest son has 3 daughters. He loves them all but his wife wanted to try for a boy thinking that’s what he would want. As he said then and still says it now, he never cared what sex they were and he felt blessed to have such wonderful children.

People are so harsh.
I had 2 girls and longs for a boy. When I was pregnant with baby 3 I was told that they couldnt find any kidneys. I had to wait 2 weeks before another test could be done. I knew if they got the same result that I would either go into early labour or they would induce me but bub would not survive. It was at that point I no longer cared what sex bub was. When they told me that bub had kidneys and was a girl I was so majorly happy.

Everyone handles it differently, some care, some don’t. I hope she gets past it and back to a normal and happy life with her children. Sharing it all online is always dangerous.

Has honestly become a negative impact – such trolling is not warranted and needed.

It’s honest – some people just hide it well. I totally get it. Having 2 girls. But i cant see life any other way!

I do think she should have thought about her son’s feelings before posting this.

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  • • Ellen replied
    • 23 May 2024 , 7:51 am

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  Yes, her feelings are real and there’s no right or wrong in this. But to post them online isn’t wise in my opinion

I think gender reveals should be private. Why does the world need to know?

Gender disappointment is real, but I think as long as you have a healthy baby at the end, that’s what matters. I don’t understand the point of sharing the news with the entire world, but that’s me.

This is why you have to be very careful about sharing your personal life to random public people. I can understand the disappointment cause some mothers long for a daughter (or via versa to ones who have all girls and want a boy) and its great to be honest about your feelings. However, those kind of thoughts and feelings should be shared privately amongst close friends or family as public people will speak hurtful truths too.
At the end of the day, you will be always grateful of whatever the gender is and will sometimes take time to accept you may not get what you want (which is normal) but you will still enjoy the bundle of joy you have gotten

Gender disappointed is real and valid. However when you make the choice to post something publicly online, you know that you’re opening yourself up to opinions of all shapes and sizes. (I’m not condoning bullying and hatred) and we know that people will make comments. So to then turn around and complain…
I feel the mum and her disappointment is valid. But maybe if you don’t want to hear people’s opinions, don’t post it to the world?

I do understand gender disappointment but I think it’s not talked about or shared publicly for a good reason and that is so the child you are having never knows about it.

I must say I find it hard to be sympathetic. It’s a game of luck and you need to understand that from the outset. I don’t feel like a parent should ever feel disappointment about their babies…

Never experienced gender disappointment; was just so relieved to have healthy babies.

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  • • mom93821 replied
    • 23 May 2024 , 4:45 am

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  I know adults that were impacted by their parents being disappointed in their gender when they were born. Rather sad for all of them.

Of course we’re allowed to feel what we feel, but I don’t know if it’s wise to put it out there on social media for all to know and possibly for your child to face when a bit older.

Maybe we should stop finding out the gender until they are born?

This is why I think gender reveals are not a great idea.

I did have gender disappointment with bub number two as I wanted two girls so that they can do stuff together but I love my little boy so much, I would never take him away if I had a choice to change time!!!
I think people experience this more often than they’d like to admit. I just don’t understand why people feel the need to put their two cents on the table, especially when the person had already admitted they felt guilty.