A mum has shared an emotional confession about her hidden gender disappointment, after finding out she was having another boy in front of family and friends.
Nicole Shamlin shared the video of her gender reveal, where she and her partner pop open colour cannons to reveal they’re having a little boy. The couple already has one son.
While in the video Nicole looks thrilled and throws her arms into the air before hugging her partner, inwardly she was crushed. The video then cuts to Nicole crying in bed, with the caption, ‘Me later that night grieving the fact that I’m not getting my baby girl just yet. How can I love another boy? Will he be replacing my first son? How can I love two sons?’
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The video attracted a huge amount of comments, some supportive of Nicole’s feelings and others appalled.
“This is sad,” wrote one mum. “I went through years of IVF. I was just thankful to have one live child. Healthy is what you should care about not the sex.”
“I’m sure there are plenty of mamas who would take that boy off your hands!! Also therapy works wonders,” added Chasity Moore.
‘Let’s talk about gender disappointment’
Despite the negative comments, hundreds of mums came to Nicole’s defence, and spoke of their own battle with gender disappointment.
It prompted the expecting mum to post a follow up video, explaining her feelings.
“Let’s talk about gender disappointment. Your feelings are valid. And just because you have gender disappointment, doesn’t mean you’re gonna love that child any less. When finding out that gender you may have that expectation of getting that girl or getting your boy.
“And when you don’t get that, it’s ok to grieve that loss. It’s ok to grieve that future that you’re not gonna get quite yet. It’s ok to feel the way you do. If you’ve never been through gender disappointment it may not be something you’re able to understand.
“But for us who have, know you’re not alone. It is normal, your feelings are valid and it only lasts a short period of time. I know it’s hard but it will get better.”
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