Carrie Bickmore has defended Rachael Finch in a column for Stellar magazine, after ‘critics’ targeted the new mum and model when she publicly shared her decision to leave her infant daughter with her mum on the weekends, so that she can spend time alone with her husband.

Carrie took a stance for Rachael, when she claimed that the new mum ‘might as well have put her hand in a blender’, when she decided to share her parenting routine.

“The immediate reaction was vicious outrage. In a world where there is so much to be outraged about, where does the energy for this come from?” Carrie wrote, “There is nothing wrong with having an opinion. But do we really need the vitriol?”

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She later added that Finch’s critics weren’t in a position to be attacking her without knowing the details of her personal life. “Perhaps she might spend more time with her daughter during the week than a lot of other mums or wishes to maintain a healthy relationship with her hubby,” she said.

Carrie has a familiarity with these attacks herself, most recently in a radio interview when she told her radio co-host Tommy Little that she showers with her nine-year-old son. It wasn’t until she discussed it with a friend that she realised people might think it was strange.

“And I’m going to say it’s almost one of my favourite times of the day, because it’s very hard to get a boy, to get a son to talk to you. Often they … give you one word answers. ‘How was school? Fine. How are your friends at school? Good.’ But for some reason when we’re in the shower — Ollie has his shower, I have my shower — we just chat and we talk about everything.

“He tells me what’s going on at school, and I love it. It’s such a beautiful time,” Bickmore said.

  • it is up to you how you parent. i love being around my kids all the time! it is still important to nurture your relationship too though


  • it is probably very healthy as your child will be used to leaving you and learn independence early and you get time to have a normal relationship with your partner and plenty of rest and feel refreshed and ready for the week ahead. Not to mention the close relationship of the grandparents. its win win all round.


  • I think what Rachael is doing is a good thing. Her daughter gets the benefit of spending time with her Nanna, Rachael gets to spend quality time with her husband which leads to a more relaxed home situation. I can’t see what’s wrong with this when other mums’ put their children into daycare.


  • There is just no need to pass judgement; good on you Rachael and Carrie.


  • I only wish I had a mum who would have taken my little ones on occasions. People should really mind their own business. Good on Carrie Bickmore for coming out on this.


  • Whatever works for you and your family, I say!! We should all just back off a little. Comments like these are often driven by jealousy. Maybe we all wish we could have a little bit of Rachel’s support network.


  • Good on you Rachael and Carrie. You have your family’s best interests at heart and that is what matters. Stuff the faceless critics!


  • I agree with Carrie,well said!


  • Yet another reason why I love Carrie.. I totally agree with her. Everyone is allowed an opinion but no need to get nasty.

    • It shows maturity and respect to give opinions and read opinions and not get nasty.


  • I’m totally with you Carrie !


  • How can mums judge other mums for this? 99% of mums I know wouldn’t look back for weekends off if they had someone they trusted that much who would be willing to look after their babies. I know I would. Parenting is hard. This possibly makes her a better parent for taking care of herself. I’m sure she wouldn’t leave her if she was sick or something.


  • I dislike the judgemental attitude of some…we are all human, and individuals…each family decides what’s appropriate for that family…what others choose to think, believe, or read into is immaterial. There’s so much happening in this world that needs action, stop interfering in the relationship any parent has with his/her child…it’s none of your business.


  • Context is everything. She’s so right there’s always more to there story but even if there’s not who are we to judge!


  • It pays to be a little circumspect about sharing on social media as some people will be quite judgmental.


  • I hate that people are quick to judge. We do what is right for our family and no one should judge us for that-mind your own business I think.


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