Concerns for Pregnant Woman Who Went Missing After Disappointing Gender Scan

A young pregnant woman missing in NZ disappeared days after an upsetting ultrasound didn’t confirm her baby was the boy she wanted.

Sonam Shelar, a 26-year-old from the Wellington suburb of Khandallah, was last seen on Saturday morning, shares news hub.

Her husband, Sagar Shelar, said her disappearance came after the pair went to get a recent ultrasound.

“On November 15 we went for an ultrasound test at the hospital. She had always dreamed for a baby boy but that day after the ultrasound they were not sure if it was a girl or boy,” Mr Shelar told NZME.

“As soon as we got in the car she was crying and so upset because she wanted a boy”.

Mr Shelar said his wife was in bed on Saturday morning when he left for work. Later in the day when he rang her, her phone was off.

He later returned home to find the front door unlocked and her keys left behind. She had only taken $20, her two cellphones and a jacket, while all of her identification was still at the house.

Police say they have serious concerns for her safety.

“It’s been cold overnight and we, like her family, are worried for her safety,” said Det Snr Sgt Warwick McKee.

We hope she is OK! It is heartbreaking the reaction some couples have to not getting the gender they always dreamed of.

Last week we shared how a Woman undergoing IVF treatments was looking to trade her girl embryo for a boy one because she’s desperate to give her son a brother. She has finally found a couple willing to swap! Read more on that here.

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26 Comments

- - Blossom said
  - 09 Dec 2018
    11:46 pm
I know a lady who didn’t find out the sex of her baby until about a month before the birth. The baby had legs crossed in previous ultrasounds

- - mom111059 said
  - 21 Nov 2018
    11:16 am
Sad to think she is so set on having a boy. I had 3 of the same and love them all. She is obviously struggling with depression or something. Hope she is found well and that she settles down and loves her baby no matter what.

- - mom93821 said
  - 21 Nov 2018
    6:57 am
Scans are not a 100% accurate and I must admit I do not understand gender disappointment because all children are so precious and special regardless of gender. I do hope she and her unborn child are found safe and well.

- - littlehandsofmine said
  - 21 Nov 2018
    1:35 am
Interesting story, it sounds like there is so much more to this that we don’t know about

- - mom7108 said
  - 20 Nov 2018
    11:02 pm
Hmmmm? They said they were not sure on the gender. Usually in these cases, the husband is a suspect, Hope they find her alive and well

- - mom90758 said
  - 20 Nov 2018
    5:10 pm
There must be something else behind this story. It wasn’t sure if it was a boy or a girl, so there was still hope. Maybe she’s a little depressed. I hope she will be found soon.

- - Amanda Holland said
  - 20 Nov 2018
    1:31 pm
I hope she’s found safe. But why can’t people just be thankful for what miracle they are given.

- - MuthaNita said
  - 20 Nov 2018
    11:27 am
So sad and scary. I hope she’s found well and alive. Gender disappointment is real but the scan didn’t confirm a gender either way from the sounds of things so she may have jumped the gun a bit.
- cherz replied
  
  20 Nov 2018 , 4:13 pm
  I am hoping we find out more and pray all well.
- - LuckyMum said
  - 20 Nov 2018
    7:50 am
That’s so sad. It’s a pity people can’t just be thankful they can have a healthy baby.
- Ellen replied
  
  21 Nov 2018 , 7:51 am
  I agree, but this isn’t the case for everyone around the world. In some nations boys are so much more appreciated and valued then girls. I wonder what nationality she’s from, the name Sonam Shelar indicates a different nationality.
- - Cookfromscratchmum said
  - 20 Nov 2018
    6:46 am
People should be thankful they even have kids not many people can and count their blessings
- mom93821 replied
  
  22 Nov 2018 , 7:23 am
  It does make me sad that gender bias is still occurring in some countries.
- - Ellen said
  - 20 Nov 2018
    3:48 am
Concerning ! hope she’s found soon and seeks help for the issues she struggles with.

- - mom160421 said
  - 19 Nov 2018
    9:26 pm
To me a child is a precious miracle. It’s a shame not everyone feels the same way.

- - mom101628 said
  - 19 Nov 2018
    9:26 pm
Hope she is found soon – a baby is yours to love no matter what gender it is.

- - mom265671 said
  - 19 Nov 2018
    9:18 pm
Wow such lengths to go. I would love my child regardless of gender

- - youngoldlady said
  - 19 Nov 2018
    8:52 pm
I am hoping the mother is found and someone can talk to her about her fear.