Last week we shared how a Woman undergoing IVF treatments was looking to trade her girl embryo for a boy one because she’s desperate to give her son a brother. She has finally found a couple willing to swap!

The woman was so desperate for a boy she posted a request on Facebook to see if anyone was interested to trade embryos.

She is ready to trade her one female embryo — the last embryo she has remaining after multiple rounds of IVF — for the male embryo of a stranger.

“I’m doing this for my son,” she told The New York Post. “My husband grew up with sisters and wants a boy too. This is the way we want to complete our family.”

Last Wednesday, Lisa took drastic action, sitting down at her computer and writing a message: “Hello, we have been trying to give my child a sibling for three years … we want to complete our family with a son. We have a great quality female embryo. Would you like to consider a trade?”

She posted the plea to a number of Facebook support groups for IVF couples — and the outrage was immediate.

The internet was not impressed!

So many people complained to forum moderators that her post was removed from the group’s page.

Read her full story here.

A discussion on the Studio 10 Facebook page saw people blasting the parents and saying they should be happy with what they have.

“This is so wrong, be happy with what ever gender you have, all that really matters that you have a healthy baby. ”

“She should be greatful she has another fertile egg….because what happens if she got another it might not take….ive been thru that – and I wasnt the lucky one – and you would be happy with whatever you got because they would be special…”

“No be grateful for what has been given to you,so bloody selfish, there are people who would love to have a child and cant.”

“No be thankful for a healthy child and being able to carry a baby in the first place.”

“Coming from someone who has medical/ fertility issues, and wants children. As well is very aware of the extreme cost of IVF . This person is SELFISH
Why is it there are soooo many people in this world that shouldn’t have kids and reproduce that do!! ”

UPDATE 13 Nov – Couple keen to swap their male embryo for a girl!

New York Post have shared that a couple who read that someone wanted to swap her girl embryo for a boy embryo, could barely believe their eyes.

The couple, who has asked that their last names and location not be revealed, desperately want a daughter to complete their family. They have two sons.

They are willing to trade their one existing boy embryo, frozen at an IVF storage facility in Pennsylvania, for the girl embryo.

“I like the sound of the girl embryo,” said Jodie, 49, who has wanted for a daughter for eight years.

Her 47-year-old husband, said “It’s pretty early days,” before adding, “We want to get ourselves prepared.”

“The concern that I have is that they might think I am too old,” admitted the mum. “But I’m young at heart.

“Plus we’re are a good, middle-class family with a four-level townhouse.”

The couple said they didn’t give much thought to those who might be shocked by their plans.

“I can’t imagine anyone would begrudge anyone having a family. You should be able to choose. This isn’t the last century.”

“Those who don’t believe that you should be allowed to swap embryos to get the right gender probably don’t even agree with IVF. They are probably people who I wouldn’t want to converse with anyway.

“It’s a private matter between us and whomever we engage with. It doesn’t matter what anyone else says.”

Mum of the girl embryo has since said to the NY Post, “I know we have some legal hurdles. We have an agreement to work out. I am cautiously optimistic. It’s so fresh and I don’t want to get my hopes up that it could be this easy.”

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  • No I don’t agree with this.


  • Will we see these for sale on ETSY soon? How can they tell the gender so early anyway?


  • That’s absolutely rediculous. I hope it never occurs.


  • I’m all for IVF but not for trading embryos. However it’s their decision and I don’t think this should have been put on Facebook if they didn’t want any criticism made about it. They left themselves wide open.


  • Absurd. If you’re at the point where you need IVF, ANY baby regardless of gender whoudl have been good enough


  • Mind blown… those poor embryos, being treated with such carelessness and rejection; being traded like playing cards. Just wow…


  • Well, I don’t think I could do it, but I hope both families the best of luck and hope they will be happy with their decision.


  • No, I have no understanding or compassion for this. Trading an embryo is like telling my kid is not good enough, I want/buy another one. A parent should unconditionally love their child, the traded embryo is biologically not even their own child (from their own eggs and sperm).


  • This is something that I wouldn’t countenance because of all the probable ramifications. What if the embryo given away doesn’t take, but the one you get does – would the owner of the first embryo want the child when it is born – it does of course have their DNA?
    Think about this very carefully, people.

    • There are so many ethical and moral reasons attached to this issue.


  • I am not against IVF but do not like the trading of embryos for so many reasons – it is quite a complex issue.


  • I am all for IVF. My niece is one of them, but boy or girl, they didn’t care, as long as he/she was healthy. I am NOT FOR this though. How sad that you are not happy with the gender you have been given. Pretty sad too if something happens to either bub (God forbid), either right away or afterwards – would parents want their REAL bub back.
    After seeing what what my brother went through for 16 years, you learn to realise what is important. And gender should be the last of their worries.


  • I really do hope it works out for these two families while making room to add another little one


  • Will the fact that the mother of the boy’s embryo is 49 years old, affect the chance to arrive to full term? The mother of the girl’s embryo is 12 years younger.
    No, personally I don’t like the idea and I wouldn’t do it.


  • It makes two families happy but l wouldn’t do this at all.


  • You don’t need a certain gender to make your family complete. I very much doubt anyone that thinks this is a bad idea disagrees with IVF they just disagree with wanting to select your child. Would the opposite sex be harder to love? This just makes me sad.


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