A couple, who managed to keep the birth of their baby secret from their entire family during the pandemic, has had their big reveal ruined.

After falling pregnant during lockdown, the husband and wife decided to keep their pregnancy under wraps. Their hope was to surprise everyone after the birth, once lockdowns had lifted.

“It was mainly because my wife didn’t want to ‘jinx’ it as she does have some issues that could possibly lead to a miscarriage or even still birth,” the new dad explained on reddit. “And being my father’s son I am big on long planned surprises.”

The time had finally come to introduce the little girl to the family, and the timing couldn’t have been more perfect. “I realised that my mum’s birthday was in a few weeks and she absolutely adores babies and has often told us that she can’t wait for my brother and I to give her grand children.

“Since the restrictions were picking up and everyone was vaccinated and socially distanced/working from home, we volunteered to have the party in our backyard. We only invited our immediate family and my in-laws.”

‘Surprise, we had a baby!’

Everything went swimmingly, the new dad explained. The guests had gathered in the backyard, and the couple had their baby daughter hidden away in the house.

“My wife and I were able to go inside and check on our daughter frequently since we were playing hosts, and use the phone monitor to keep and eye on things. Finally came the time for gifts, we went last out of courtesy and gave my mum a funny grandma t-shirt. Everyone was so excited that we were going to have a baby and while my wife was being congratulated I snuck upstairs to get her.”

“So when my wife asked my mum how excited she was, my mum said she can’t wait and, well I couldn’t have gotten a better cue. So I made my entrance showcasing our daughter telling her she doesn’t have to wait. This is where the room basically got divided. My parents and father-in-law were over the moon. My brother was pretty happy but my sister in law (brother’s wife) and my mother-in-law were visibly not happy.

“While my mum basically took our daughter and refused to let others even see her properly, both women came to us and told us how it was wrong of us to hide the baby and the pregnancy. My SIL basically told us how we were bad people to make mum’s birthday all about us and our baby and how it just upstaged everyone’s gifts and efforts.

“My MIL was upset because she wanted to do certain traditions with my wife during her pregnancy which she wouldn’t get to do now. My wife and I tried to explain our reasonings and even told my MIL that we may have another child in a few years if we decide to have three.

“After the party, my mum texted me that it was the best gift ever and we announced it officially and again got a mixed response with some friends calling my crazy (in a good way) for being able to keep this a secret .(I’ve had baby fever since 19). While some were offended that we didn’t trust them enough to disclose this. A few of my wife’s friends were upset because they didn’t get the opportunity to throw a baby shower and other stuff. Although my wife and I don’t think we did anything wrong, the mixed response has gotten us worried that we may have ruffled a few feathers unnecessarily.”

Do you think it was a beautiful surprise? Or should the couple have revealed their baby at another time? Let us know in the comments.

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  • In the end it is all about the couple and what they choose to do. You can’t make all of the people happy , all of the time.


  • I think it was the most wonderful surprise for your Mum and anyone who didn’t like it that’s their problem. It’s just sour grapes and should feel privileged they were the first to hear. Also if people want to throw a baby shower they can still do this


  • It is so hard to keep the secret like this.I can imagine they decided this because of the risk of miscarriage.I have done the same thing for a few months after my first miscarriage when i was pregnant to second one. But not the whole pregnancy.


  • I can see how it would have been easy to keep it a secret, but I don’t think I’d want to. But good on them pulling off the biggest surprise ever.


  • I could have kept the secret to family and friends but would have to have told my mum


  • I think that’s just straight-up rude to be visibly unhappy about it. You have a baby with someone because you love them – not to please your or their family! It’s really none of their business how you decide to raise your child.


  • I understand both sides. With the limits to visits and everything, it would have been torture for my mum if she knew and couldn’t visit though, hahah. I couldn’t wait to tell my parents, but each to their own!


  • I can understand both sides. Personally I couldn’t keep it a secret, especially from my mum.


  • I completely think that this is just beautiful. The people who got angry are just thinking about themselves and being selfish.


  • I can completely understand with the circumstances. The only thing would be that maybe they should have let the in-laws know and surprise everyone else as that can be a bit hurtful. Grandparents like to be involved. Would have been an amazing surprise though!


  • You do you! I’m amazed that you were able to keep it a surprise for so long. I can understand that people were upset, shocked, etc. but… we’re living in unusual times at the moment.


  • I’m not sure I could keep that news a secret from my parents in particular (or in-laws) but I think each to their own. Don’t understand the sister in laws reaction at all – I don’t think it was her place to get so upset


  • I always thought it would be nice to keep a pregnancy secret! Very nearly did… or should I say, the baby kept itself secret from us for a good long while! I think it was a lovely surprise, and if the birthday lady wasn’t upset or felt upstaged by it nobody else should! And to be honest even if she did, it was your choice to make!
    A big congratulations on your new baby.


  • I can sort of understand why MIL would be a bit upset, she obviously wanted to share the experience too. SIL is just being a cow though


  • People are strange with their reaction to the baby and I think 6our Sil is spiteful person and I would ignore her your mum was happy and maybe your Mil was jealous that it wasn’t on her birthday.


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