When English soccer captain, Harry Kane, praised his fiancée on social media after the birth of their second child, he never expected the response he received.

He shared a photo with their new bub captioned, “Our beautiful addition to the family! Vivienne Jane Kane. So proud of @kategoodersxx for having the most amazing water birth with no pain relief at all. #mygirls #hypnobirthing”

The proud dad clearly had no idea of the controversy he was starting when he wrote the comment after the birth of his second daughter, Vivienne.

Critics quickly reacted with angry mums defending their decision to choose pain-relief during long labours.

“Please don’t promote drug-free births as better than others. We all give birth how we give birth, just like we parent how we parent. Doesn’t make anyone better than anyone else,” said one follower.

“Way to make mothers feel terrible if they ask for an epidural,” said another.

Harry was soon tweeting a response to the angry women saying, “Any woman can give birth however they would like,” he wrote. “I’m very proud of my fiancée for doing it how she wanted and we both learnt a lot from hypnobirthing.”

Many fans replied telling him he did not have to defend Kate’s choices.

“Let’s all just celebrate births however they happen,” said one Twitter follower, “Let’s not make birth-shaming a thing.”

Oops!  I really don’t think he meant anything by it at all, do you?  Unlike this dad who claimed that “the pain of childbirth is a myth and it’s really just all in our heads due to fear and anxiety.” Read more on that here.

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  • Pretty sure this guy is just a super proud new dad and immensely proud of his partner for giving him this beautiful gift. I don’t see any shaming of anyone


  • Congratulations to Kate and Harry. I don’t think he would have thought too much about what he said. They probably would have been approached by the media and questions asked. He simply gave the details of his own accord. I wonder what the articles in magazines will have printed in them


  • It’s clear to see that he was so proud of his fiancé for giving birth to their beautiful daughter. I didn’t see where he was saying anything against women having pain relief during birth.


  • The article reminds me of a time when my daughter was very heavily pregnant with her first. Her comment to me was ‘Giving birth is different now to when you had yours’. I nearly wet myself laughing because I thought babies still came out from between your legs. By the way, my daughter is only twenty years younger than me.


  • No I don’t think he meant anything but it he is proud of his SO and ecstatic to be a dad. I’m disappointed people could not empathise where he was coming from.


  • Wow people will take offence to anything these days. I don’t think he was trying to criticise everyone else. Maybe people need to stop making everything about them., He was just praising his wife for a job well done.

    • I agree – a husband proud of his wife is to be celebrated!


  • I read the post and really didn’t think too much of it. Big whoop she did it without pain relief. She delivered a healthy baby and that’s what matters. As the father, the person who doesn’t give birth, he will never understand the feeling/experience/pain/need for relief!!


  • That comment would not offend me – take it for what it is – a husband amazed by birth and by his partner.


  • Honestly, people just have to get over themselves. He was proud of his wife and just expressed that. He wasn’t shaming other mothers for the way they birth. Just leave him be.


  • I think people reacting negatively to this are being really pedantic. I didn’t read it as having a dig at mums who do need pain relief – just a sad posting with his newborn. Even if you did read it & felt it was having a go – that’s fine but why post about it? Keep it to yourself. Everyone is entitled to their own opinions but that doesn’t mean you need to post about it on twitter or whatever – especially in replying to this dad’s post. Each to their own. The world would be a lot more peaceful if people just did their own thing, didn’t judge others and took a ‘live and let live’ approach. Even if you don’t agree, that’s fine but leave it be. Each to their own I say. Less stress for everyone!


  • I am SO over everyone being offended by EVERYTHING all of the time. Social media has some advantages but has also killed freedom of speech rather than embracing it. Kane didn’t imply his wife was better than anybody, he was simply sharing his life as so many people expect these days.

    If people continue to get offended, aggressive and annoyed people like Kane and others will disappear from social media to avoid the backlash and you will all have to go back to paying for your info via soap magazines.

    We are all different, what’s right for one isn’t right for another. We are all humans and make our choices. We should be tolerant and understanding of our diversity.

    Last i heard Ruby Rose left twitter for ridiculous claims that she couldn’t portray a lesbian as she wasn’t one yet has been out for years!!!



  • OMG People just need to calm down a little. Nothing wrong with saying it was drug free when it was followed up with a hashtag hypnobirthing. Relax people!!


  • I agree. I don’t think he was trying to blame anyone! He was just happy.


  • I didn’t read that at all as having a dig at other mothers using pain relief drugs during birth. I saw it as a proud dad moment. You can’t say anything these days without offending someone. Aren’t we getting just a bit too pedantic


  • He’s just proud and happy with his new family. No judgement on others I believe.


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