A British man claims he was ‘forced’ into parenthood after a woman he was seeing casually told him she was pregnant…
A man has taken to popular parenting forum Mumsnet to ask if he is being unreasonable to feel ‘forced’ into parenthood. The man says he had been seeing a woman casually for three to four months and believed she was using contraception but was shocked when she announced she was pregnant and expected to resume their relationship.
A Big Shock
The man says he is already the father of a three-year-old girl, who he fought to have 50/50 custody of, but is being constantly chased for child support and told to take responsibility for this new baby. “I felt betrayed, used and tricked into something I never wanted and to that point I was clear about,” he wrote. “I made it clear that I wanted nothing to do with it now or in the future and she decided to go ahead.” The reluctant father says he feels pressure to be involved in his child’s life. “Why should I be responsible for something which I was effectively tricked into and something I then had no control over?” he asked the forum.
It Takes Two
Comments on the dad’s post were critical of his willingness to blame his former partner for the pregnancy. “It is not the child’s fault that its parents were a bit slapdash with contraception and you need to take some responsibility for that,” one forum user wrote. “Nobody has forced you into anything that you weren’t aware could happen.” “Accidents happen,” said another. “Why should we have to bear the full cost and responsibility, just by virtue of our biology?”
This dad didn’t exactly get the support he was looking for! We can only hope that this baby is able to be brought up in a loving environment without this sort of tension.
Do you think this Dad should take responsibility or does he have a point? Share your thoughts in the comments.