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Father killed while fiancé in labour with their baby.


 

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Crystal Matrau-Belt, 24, did not know until after she gave birth that both her fiancé and her mother had been killed in a crash on the way to the hospital to be with her.  Police say speed was a factor in the crash, her fiancé Emil Skokan, hit a tree.

Crystal went into labour wondering where her fiancé was, with staff deciding to keep the news from her.

“I got a text saying “Do you want me to bring up anything?” Crystal told reporters, ‘and I just said “I’ll meet you up there” and he said that he loved me.”

“They were trying to get here,” Crystal said, “Their main focus was being able to be here because I didn’t want them to miss anything. They just wanted to be there for me.”

Crystal suspected something had gone wrong saying: “I asked my stepdad, ‘Do you know where Emil is?'” Ms Matrau-Belt told local newspaper Kalamazoo Gazette. “My dad said, ‘Honey, that’s what we need to talk to you about.’ I just all of a sudden had a sinking feeling something was wrong. I just didn’t know that it was my fiance and my mum.

“Losing two of the most important people in my life at the same time as bringing a child into the world, it’s like happy and the most heartbreaking thing.

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“I waited so long to be able to have a child, and to have a child but then have two things ripped out of my life, it’s just really hard to deal with and even process.”

Jeremiah came into the world earlier than expected. “I go to pick him up and I see Emil in him,” Matrau-Belt said. “It’s hard, but just to know that I have a piece of Emil, that helps a little bit.

“I want to celebrate him being born, but losing my fiancé who I loved so much, and my mom at the same time, it’s a really big struggle to try to balance all of that,” she said. “I go from grief for one person and I’m crying hysterically and just upset, and then I’m OK, and then it flips to the other person and then it’s back and forth because both of them were so important in my life. To lose them both at a time like this, it’s really hard.”

Oh gosh, what a terrible tragedy.

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  • This is so tragic. The new Mum who should be “over the moon” is distraught because she has lost the most 2 important adults in her life. Jeremiah will never have the opportunity to get to know his Dad as most babies do. Crystal never had the chance to share their beautiful baby with him. I hope Crystal and her Stepdad have an incredible relationship as they need the support of each other.

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  • Omg how terrible for this to happen at a special and beautiful time in her life. I wish her and her baby all the best

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  • Reading this article I am already in tears, what a hard thing to go through, mixed emotions with being able to give birth to your baby and then finding out your partner and mother have died. I feel for you, I hope and pray that you are able to get through this tough time.

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  • I can’t even imagine how she feels, so tragic. x

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  • Your comment is truly beautiful Tes and I am sure your prays and thoughts have added much comfort.

    I also send my condolences along with special prays and wishes for future health and happiness for you Crystal and baby Jeremiah. xx

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  • Oh my goodness what a shock for all those involed

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  • Oh my goodness. How tragic. My thoughts are with them

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  • Dear Crystal
    I just want to say I am deeply sorrowed reading your story. Congratulations on the birth of Jeremiah, I am glad you and he are safe and well. I send my heartfelt sympathy to you on the death and passing of your mother and fiance Emil. I pray strength, health, happiness and hope for you and Jeremiah and you journey through life together. It’s hard to lose those you love, but together is even more heartbreaking for you. I send my love and prayers that day by day you will find peace and happiness and our loving Saviour will hold you in His loving arms and rock you with His love. God bless you and your son Jeremiah always. Love Tes

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  • wow that is heartbreaking. i saw that pic and that was it. poor lady. so sad especially at this time of year.

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  • What a rollercoaster of emotions :( poor bugger. Little Jeremiah will have 2 angels watching over him for sure :)

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  • Ohh!! Poor woman! Losing both her mother and the father of her baby. Really really sad. :-(

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  • What a heart breaking story. Wishing her and bubs the best.

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  • I can’t even imagine the feeling of switching between grief for your child’s father & overwhelming love for your child. It just makes my heart sad and appreciate my own blessings.

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  • Lie ns

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  • Can’t begin to fathom how horrible this must have been for her. What a tragedy.

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