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A touching post on The Dad Network reminds us all that we never know what someone is truly struggling through. Just be kind. Always!

Father of one, Al Ferguson, who is the founder of The Dad Network with his wife Jen, shared on Facebook a beautiful photo of Jen snuggled up with their son, nobody would ever realise the heartbreaking struggle within.

“My two sleeping beauties. I took this photo this afternoon when Jen & Ted got back from their morning out together.

I begged Jen to stay home and rest this morning but she insisted Ted and her were off for their usual Tuesday morning together and that she didn’t want to miss it.

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I could’ve taken him but she was adamant. They went to a toddler group and Ted had a wonderful time followed by a run in the park and a Wagamama lunch.

They then came back home and both fell asleep in each other’s arms.

Jen was up all night, Ted woke four or five times last night (children pick up on everything right?) and she needed a lot of pain relief, hot water bottles etc.

It struck me today whilst she was out at the toddler group that she will have been in a hall with a hundred people acting as if nothing were happening to her.

No one would know she was miscarrying, right there, right then. No one would know she was in pain or that her heart was hurting. To the room full of mums and dads she was just another mum having fun with her boy.

It just goes to show that you never know what other people, those around you, are going through.

The person sitting next to you on the train, the parent in the playground, the mum at toddler group. They might all be having a hard time, be hurting, be sick, be in pain. They may be struggling through. Yet they paint on their smiles and face the world.

It’s a stark reminder of the need to always be kind. Because you never know what others are going through.”

In a blog on Dad Network, Al shared…

ANOTHER LATE PERIOD
ANOTHER TEST
ANOTHER POSITIVE
ANOTHER HOPE
ANOTHER WISH
ANOTHER DREAM
ANOTHER BABY
ANOTHER CHANCE

AND THEN

ANOTHER PAIN
ANOTHER CRAMP
ANOTHER BLEED
ANOTHER TEAR
ANOTHER ACHE
ANOTHER LOSS

ANOTHER MISCARRIAGE

SIX MISCARRIAGES.

His post has received over 22,000 reactions and over 4,800 shares.

Our thoughts are with them both at this sad time.

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  • very courageous and selfless act from this lady. her child would have have ad a great day while she experienced the day with a different view

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  • Lovely post by the dad. My heart goes out to you both – it is a hard time to cope with.

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  • A lady I worked with had finished work at 6 months pregnant because she had fainted a couple of times so she was advised she should rest more. She was in a metropolitan shopping mall one day when she suddenly got excrusiating stomach pains and had to hold onto a pole as it was the closest strong thing near her. Luckily a Mum walking past realised what could be happening. Fortunately they were very close to a hospital and the lady knew she could get there quicker than an ambulance could arrive at the shopping centre. She helped her into her car, rushed her to hospital and just as they arrived my friend started bleeding. Her baby was 6 weeks premature, and with the dedication of the staff at the hospital her baby girl survived after a long struggle. Had it not been for the quick thinking of the lady who helped her it most likely have been a huge risk for Mother and Baby.

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  • It’s very true that people put on a good face for others.

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  • oh that was incredibly beautifully written. My heart is sad for them. But his story has made me think instead of just taking people for granted and assuming that the facade always shows what’s on the inside – thank you for sharing your story

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  • Aw bless !! Sorry to hear about your loss.
    So true that you never know what other people, those around you, are going through. Good to be kind always, even more so to those who’re unkind to you as they need it the most.

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  • I know the pain.
    Wishing you all love, strength and hope. xx

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  • A sad but loving post. Best wishes to you all with your journey.

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  • When I was 11 weeks into my first pregnancy we started telling people. 11 weeks is close enough to 12 right? Small town and word spread to everyone we’d ever met by the end of the day. I started bleeding 11+3. Ultrasound the next day showed no heartbeat. I had nowhere to hide. Every woman deserves the kind of support I recieved going through my miscarriage but every woman needs an opportunity to spend a morning like life is normal.

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