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I’ve been doing my own form of meditation this week.

There are two variations. One involves standing on the beach and watching the waves roll in; pointing out flocks of seagulls to the kids and spotting Hairy Maclary-style dogs lolloping through the sand.

The other involves a rhythmic dance at the park, consisting initially of pushing two little cherubs in side-by-side swings, and then catching them as they zoom in tandem down the slippery slide.

OK, so these are not quite the meditations I’m supposed to be doing as part of my Mindfulness Week 3 routine, but I’ve found it very hard to make time for these when the sun is shining, the ocean’s glistening, and the jasmine is blossoming.

Spring is in the air, and there’s finally a spring in my step too.

When I started this journey with this post and this post a couple of weeks ago, I was struggling with strong feelings of anxiety.

Can I just say, I have LOVED hearing from all of you out there – the mums that feel the same as I do and aren’t sure where to turn next, the ladies that have been where I am and have already used Mindfulness and other techniques to make a real difference in their lives, the new friends that have decided to read the book too and join me on this journey – I am amazed and so grateful to you for sharing your stories with me.

Your positive energy makes a difference.

My quest to become a less anxious mum began because the beautiful world I live in is frequently bubbling with chaos, stress, noise, mess and heart palpitations.

It often comes from all angles, overwhelming the senses.  It’s the constant chatter and crying and questions and screaming and laughter out of the mouths of babes.

It’s the orchestra of thoughts that swim around in my head – from what I’m going to make the kids for dinner through to what I’m going to do with my life.

It’s the toys in every primary colour and primary-colour-combination imaginable, scattered around the floor, under cushions, beneath my feet.

It’s the external pressures, the internal expectations and the impossible desire for everything to be perfect and just so.

I was feeling overwhelmed at times and joyless just trying to keep everybody’s lives ticking along. I could never quite put my finger on why I felt like this, because I really do love being a mum. I love my little family to absolute bits and pieces.

That’s why I decided I couldn’t continue down this path of negativity and anxiety anymore. It was recommended I learn some Mindfulness techniques to bring some perspective and calm into my life.

I had never heard of Mindfulness before, but was willing to give anything a go and I had nothing to lose by giving it a try.

I’m still a complete novice at this meditation stuff, but I’m so glad I decided to give it a crack.

Feeling better, feeling refreshed, feeling rejuvenated is intoxicating, and I just want this light in my soul to get bigger and brighter.

The breathing exercises and meditations are easy and enjoyable to follow, and only take about 15 minutes a day to complete (I must admit I still struggle to find this time some days though).

When I was forcing myself to do the meditations last night – with the usual background sounds of pots clanging in the soapy sink downstairs, and traffic zooming past outside, and the occasional snore from the baby monitor – there was one phrase that the man-with-the-wise-voice uttered that really resonated.

The deep stillness we seek, does not arise because the world is still or the mind is quiet. Stillness is nourished when we allow things to be just as they are for now, in this moment, moment by moment, and breath by breath.

I drunk those words in like I’d never heard them before. Breathe. Let things be just as they are, in this moment.

I realised – in this moment, I am the happiest I have ever been in my life. The people I love most in the world are safe inside this home of ours. We are healthy. We all laugh and wrestle and listen to what each other has to say (even when the babbling doesn’t make sense!).

I am breathing. I am here. And there is so much more to come.

*This weekly wrap-up of Latte Mum’s journey to becoming a less anxious and more relaxed mum, was written exclusively for Mouths of Mums readers. If you want more, you can follow Mel’s regular posts about Mindfulness at Latte Mum.
  • Many thanks – these articles are great.

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  • My staff found it hilarious when I tried meditation. They accurately assessed it as not for me.

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  • Thanks for sharing; mindfulness is so important for well being.

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  • I’m really enjoying these articles. Thank you

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  • Thank you a good read

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  • It’s so hard to find time to just STOP!thankyou for this!


    • I agree! My whole life has been go, go, go – kind of weird yet refreshing to be more “present”. Which I had figured it all out sooner!

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  • Being positive and surrounding yourself with positive people really does help.

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  • thank you for the interesting read

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  • Positive energy makes all the difference!

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  • I’ve enjoyed reading these articles of yours. Some good insights you’ve shared which are relatable.


    • Thank you – so glad to hear that you’ve found my jumble of words interesting and useful to you. x

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  • Love the idea of watching the waves roll in and pushing littlies on swings ..my kind of heaven.
    Thanks for your wonderful article,.

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  • a very interesting read, thank you

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  • I agree positive energy does make a difference but often it is hard to find when your overwhelmed with the demands of motherhood. I’m glad your mindfulness technique is continuing to work for you

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  • Another inspiring instalment in your story, thank you. I liked what you said about pushing the kids on the swing being a type of mediation. Obviously not in the strictest of senses but it resonated with me because it’s about being truly present in the moment. I’m always thinking about what I need to pick up at the shops on the way home when I’m at the park. That’s not a bad thing but I’ll be aiming to just “be” next time I’m at the park :-)


    • This has made my heart sing. Too often I’m thinking about something else, and I miss the most beautiful moments unfolding before my very eyes. My “swing & sea meditations” have helped me enjoy that time with the children more – nothing better than fresh air, giggling kids and waves rolling onto the sand! Thanks for reading and for your comment. x

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