I think this might be a slight over reaction. Everyone has the choice to make there own decisions on what there child eats and perhaps this mum needs to have a conversation with her and maybe consider taking the childs food with them so they know what the child can eat.

I agree with mom484925 that now a days we are more educated about healthy foods and boundaries indeed. I think it’s up to the parents to decide what type of diet their kids receive and it’s also up to the parents to communicate this with those who’re involved with their kids

It might be a bit of an overreaction. I would be annoyed about it, sure. But these types of things are going to happen when you need to rely on others for babysitting. The article says that the grandmother is going to be looking after the baby on a more permanent basis, the mum is going to have to get used to missing some firsts. They need to work together and not get hung up on little things.

Grandparents need to stop feeling entitled. It is so disrespectful to not as the mother of the child for permission. We’re no longer in 1980. We’re more educated and understand healthy boundaries in this day and age. I really hop this mother stands her ground and sets some boundaries with her in laws. Boundaries do not mean disrespect, boundaries are healthy.

I hope this mum went back to her in laws and told them that they can’t feed bub what ever they want. Nine months old is such a young age to start having processed sugar. And then what other boundaries are going to be broken. Better to get on top of it now

Yes it would make me pretty upset too. When and if to introduce processed sugar is totally up to the parents and should be run by the parents indeed.
I’m still very careful with processed sugar by my 12 year old with Down syndrome. She has some cavities, but the problem is we can get her into the dentist chair and other then counting teeth the dentist can’t do anything for her. We’re looking at GA’s for proper checks and treatment. So yeah, I’m careful with sugar

I am not certain by reading this if the mum actually has told the grandparents what and what not to give their grandchild …however I also agree the MIL should run any food and food introduction by/with the parents first.

Not overreacting at all. Grandparents these days really don’t have respect for the mothers wishes. I didn’t starting introducing chocolate to my kids until 3 years old. My child is 10 now and every time we go mil after dinner, I constantly tell her pleas don’t give them sweets they need to go bed soon. But she will ignore and continue loading the bowl up with ice cream and all chocolate toppings and sprinkles and then laughing and saying I am the grandma they need to like me. So I totally agree with the frustration. I hope it doesn’t continue for you

Yeah I’d be annoyed too so I don’t blame you. I guess the way I see it is when it comes to certain foods you should always ask the parent before just going ahead and giving it. Maybe she meant nothing by it or maybe she wanted to be the one who was first to let the baby have a special treat which is even more annoying. Oh far out some MIL/or FIL can be a handful and lowkey frustrating as heck, I feel you. But yeah probably should of said something straight up, either way next time they look after the baby I would be clear and drop a major hit saying to not be feeding the baby anything other than what you have given or allowed.

I would be furious in this mums position. When to introduce processed sugar into a babies diet is something that should be in the parents control. A babies palette is so sensitive at that point, I didn’t want to introduce it early and have them expecting everything to taste as sugary as that. I would be outspoken on my thoughts to the in laws. And letting hubs know it’s a united front situation

Personally I don’t think you are over reacting and think tat grand parents should respect the wishes of the parents in regards their grand child(ren) at all times. However from the article it isn’t exactly clear to me if this mum explicitly explained to the grand parents that she doesn’t want her child to have chocolate yet. Of course you don’t want this leading to rupture of the relationship / broken trust. So when addressing it I would not bring your message with anger but just say something like “I know you mean well, but can you next time please not give him chocolate, I/we prefer him not to have chocolate and …. and …. yet”

You are absolutely not overreacting. I have been in the same situation with my daughter’s grandparents since she was a baby. I am not a confrontational person and my boundaries are unfortunately often pushed. I set some very basic ground rules, (not many at all), when the in-laws took care of her. One was around avoiding sugary food. My LO genuinely enjoyed fruit and vegetables and never even wanted chocolate, so why offer it? I remember them dropping her home saying “she really loved all of the lollies!” I burst into tears. I think they may have been stirring me, but I was fragile and felt disrespected.

My LO has just turned three. She doesn’t love fresh produce the way she used to, but she still never asks for sweet foods and LOVES her water. Whenever we visit her grandparents, they always give her apple juice. She ends up having a little, then asking for water.

At the end of the day, it’s not even the sugar that bothers me. It’s the principal.

I feel for you, MILs can be hard. I think the disrespect comes in when your MIL has ignored/not listened to the fact that you haven’t yet fed him this/haven’t wanted to. I would be less concerned about him having a little chocolate and more concerned that she did it without asking you. I also don’t like how she told you, not even acknowledging that maybe she shouldn’t have done it and was sorry. Such a tough position for you to be in, and your feelings are valid whether MIL meant to upset/ignore your feelings or not. She should have sort your consent first and apologised for not.