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Fox FM’s Fifi Box and 2DayFM’s Em Rusciano opened up about mum guilt: that sinking feeling mums get when they wonder if they are doing enough for their children when working.

Fifi shared on radio one of the many issues women face, “As a working mum, the balls you hold in the air.”

Fifi has been a busy mum, juggling breakfast radio full-time and working on Neighbours.

“I’m the first to say I’ve bit of far more than I can chew right now. I would argue breakfast radio is a full time job and that’s probably all I needed. But my dream of becoming Nicole Kidman and being an actress… I got carried away with it and I’ve committed to Neighbours,” she explained.

“For the past six weeks I’ve been a really absent mum and it’s taken it’s toll on me because as a single mum, in many ways I’m all she’s got. The guilt that you feel when you are a working mum… it’s a guilt that you can’t escape.

“It’s so painful because I was a career woman before. I always thought to myself, I’m going to lead by example and show my daughter that you can do it. But there are those moments late at night where I feel like I’m failing.

“When she’s asleep, I’m looking at her little angel face and I think, ‘am I enough? Am I doing enough for you? Because I don’t want to have put career first, you are first.’ She’s my everything.”

Em agreed that being a working mum has it’s challenges.

“Last week, I quit my job twice. This one. I was so upset. I was working both ends of the day, I was doing stand-up comedy, I was doing radio. You lay down at night and it’s the last minute before you fall asleep and you get anxiety and the guilts,” she said.

“I think a lot of women out there do this. I just want to be able to say, what you are doing makes you a better mother. Women who completely lose themselves in their families are often the ones who end up at the end of the day, feeling, ‘well, what about me? What am I?’

“We’re watering our love and our own gardens and showing our daughters, the women of Australia, young girls, that it’s okay to want things for yourself.

“You, Fifi Box, are more than enough.”

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  • yes but she is also a famous mum so her life is still not like yours or mine really.

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  • The constant juggling act is tough.

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  • I have always found it hard being a Mum and having to go to work. I missed out on the first step, the first word and all those wonderful milestones. I was very lucky to have babysitters who took photos for me. Still didn’t ease the guilt though but I told myself that I was doing this for them so we didn’t have to struggle to pay bills and we could provide them with everything necessary so they didn’t miss out. I’m glad to say that they do appreciate what we both did for them.

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  • Being a mum is hard, no one tells you this. There is always the expectation that you have to do and be everything. I feel guilty when I cant provide this.

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  • Even without a job I think we can have sometimes too much on our plates, so yeah I can imagine the struggles.


    • I agree – all mums work, whether outside of the home or inside the home. It is all valuable and can be a struggle to find balance. Prioritising your own health and well being is a must as you have to be in good shape in every way for your own well being and for your family.

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  • Good on her for sharing her thoughts with others – working and being a mum can be a struggle for every mum regardless of their relationship dynamic.

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  • Yes a Mum has choices but she isn’t home and alert when her teenager is home he / she may be feeling neglected. The teenager is probably at school at least some of the time a Mum is home between jobs.

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  • I love this article. I am enough. We really need to believe it. I work and maintain a house and raise a teenage son. And whilst I have an amazing and really supportive husband, sometimes it feels like there’s just not enough time and that everything else is moving way too fast. We need to relax, take time to smell the roses, and realise we are enough.

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