When it comes to this time of the year, it usually feels daunting for many single ladies knowing that Valentine’s Day is just around the corner.
Often, people look at day as a torturing mechanism that reminds them that they are single and how lonely it feels. It is interesting to see how many beautiful and amazing women (who have had great success in many different areas of their lives), suddenly feel like they aren’t good enough or unworthy of love.
I remember when I broke up with my ex-boyfriend and how miserable I felt leading up to V-Day. I remember how much I used to dread this day and tried to avoid it at all costs. I avoided going outside because I would see lovey-dovey couples so I stayed inside, feeling even more lonely and miserable. So, I decided that from then on, I would feel happy, amazing and fabulous being single on Valentine’s Day. The year after I did what I promised myself and I remember how powerful and incredible it felt.
So here are some of my simple tips to help you feel your most amazing and fabulous single self on Valentine’s Day
Remind yourself of how beautiful, amazing and fabulous you really are
Valentine’s Day is a day to remind people of love, so give plenty of love to yourself. Remind yourself of how beautiful, unique and amazing you really are. Be gentle and kind to yourself because how you treat yourself sets the standards for other to treat you. Quiet that little chatter box and those negative thoughts. You are simply amazing, regardless of your relationship status.
Focus on internal happiness
Your happiness and worth are independent of all the external things such as people, career, money or possessions. When you wait for someone to buy you flowers, to send you a Valentine’s card to feel happy, to say ‘I love you’, you give your power away. When you choose to consciously create the love and happiness from the inside out, it radiates from within and become magnetic to others. Don’t wait to receive love, be the love you want to receive from others.
Do something that you enjoy
If you have been waiting for a special occasion to do something you enjoy or to treat yourself, this is the perfect time. Pamper your fabulous self the way you truly deserve. Get a nice relaxing massage or facial, adding some manicure or pedicure, or having a nice glass of wine while taking a bubble bath with some candles, or treat yourself to a beautiful outfit or a sexy pair of heels. You can also get in touch with nature, go for a bike ride, soak up some sun at the beach, go for a walk in the forest, etc. There are plenty of things to do and places to visit so you don’t have to feel lonely and lock yourself up at home like I did.
Do something that you have always been afraid to do
Nothing gives you excitement and inner power like overcoming something you are afraid or scared of. If your fear is height, maybe sign up to a trapeze, bungee or skydiving class. I remember the feeling when I jumped out of the plane, despite of my fear of heights, how exhilarating and free it felt. It is not going to be an easy task, but I can guarantee you that facing your fear will be one of the most rewarding things you can you for yourself.
Appreciate your moments of being single
You’ll probably be laughing if I tell you there are awesome benefits of being single. It’s true! When you are in a relationship, there are compromises that you have to make and things you have to share, etc. Being single allows you the time, space and freedom to do things you enjoy. The time will come when you’ll be in a relationship, but for now, appreciate your moments of single-dom, enjoy being your most fabulous and amazing single self.
Appreciate present relationships and friendships
One of the biggest struggle for many singles is the fact that they often feel like they are alone and facing the whole world by themselves. The truth is, you are never alone! You have had friendships, family and other relationships with those who love, support and appreciate you. You wouldn’t have been here without their love and support so take a moment to be grateful for their presence in your life.
Share your love with others
Valentine’s Day is all about love – not only receiving love, but sharing the love you have with others. Sometimes we forget how truly lucky and fortunate we are to be living in this country. There are millions of people who are suffering and struggling in their lives, losing their love ones, battling illnesses, losing their homes etc. It is important to have some perspective and be appreciative of what we have here. Share the love by doing something kind for others on this day, volunteer at a charity, donate your clothing or belonging that you no longer use, donate some money to good cause, sign up for some fundraising run etc. Give and share your love today without asking anything in return.
How will you be spending your Valentine’s Day? Share with us in the comments.