Parents to be are often beside themselves with the anticipation of what their little munchkin will be like. We lay awake at night staring at the ceiling wondering if our child will grow up to be outgoing and funny like Aunty Sarah, or kind and empathetic like Aunty Maurs.  Is there any way of knowing?  Besides waiting, I mean.

Much has been written about whether or not birth order can determine a child’s personality. You know – the eldest child is responsible; the middle child is always the black sheep of the family?

I’m going to take this one step further and question whether the type of birth you have can determine your baby’s personality. Or rather – whether your baby’s personality determines the type of birth you have! Sound crazy? Hear me out.

The first labour

My first born came into the world through a rather standard sort of labour.

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After staying up in a hormonal frenzy of nesting (cleaning and rearranging his nursery like a mad woman), I had finally gone to bed at around 11pm.

At around 2am, I felt a strange “popping” sensation as I rolled onto my side. Yep, you guessed it; that was my waters breaking. Excitedly, I had jumped up to call the midwife, who suggested that we make our way to the hospital. Four days passed my due date and enormous, I was more than ready to have this baby.

By the time we arrived, the contractions had started. My labour progressed gradually, building up over a period of three hours until finally I was ready to push. And push. And push.

Frustratingly, this was precisely the moment things began to slow down. My contractions started to wane, and push as I might, this baby was just not budging. He definitely didn’t want to go anywhere fast.

Finally, after about another four hours – yes, that’s right, I said FOUR HOURS OF PUSHING, a dose of something to speed those contractions up again and with the help of a ventouse, he was out. Finally!

So how does that relate to my son’s personality?

My son, now seven, is as stubborn as a mule. He does everything in his own time and at his own pace. Often, he’ll rush headlong into something with unbridled enthusiasm, only to change his mind moments later.

He has tried all manner of sports and activities for a period of weeks, sometimes months, before growing bored and changing his mind.

One week, spaghetti is his favourite meal, the next week, he won’t even look at it. He often picks up new things quickly and then plateaus for a while before finally mastering something. He is the last one down the stairs every morning and if he so happens to be the first, you can bet that he’s still the last one in the car. He is shy, self – conscious and stubborn.

The second time around

Everything about my second labour was different to the first. And interestingly enough, my children could not be more different.

I had been playing a rather exciting game of Monopoly with my niece when I felt what could only be described as a “cork screw”, as my baby dropped head first into the birth canal. I had excitedly taken myself off to bed, in the hope of getting a few hours’ sleep before the contractions started. When they did start, there was no stopping them. I describe my daughter’s labour as a tornado ripping through my body, taking no prisoners. From the first twinge it had only taken about ten minutes before my contractions escalated to unbearably strong and painful spasms.

Needless to say, we did not make it to the hospital that night. Oh no, this baby had other plans. Half way to the hospital in the middle of the night and somewhere on the side of the road, our baby girl flew into the world.

She kicked and screamed at the top of her lungs for the entire ambulance ride to hospital. With her little Mohawk standing on end, she resembled something of a warrior.

And Her Personality….

Three years later, our daughter throws herself head first into everything. She completes every task in a flurry of excitement, commands a presence and orders everyone about like she rules the world. She is always in a hurry. She never walks, she runs; and she is a warrior if ever there was one.

Third time lucky

Having delivered a baby on the side of the road once before, we decided to eliminate all the risks and have my third labour induced.

This time, things took a while to get going. After several hours, I had only dilated a few centimetres, yet the contractions were definitely at full voltage. As my midwife prepared to leave for the day, I heard her whisper to her replacement that things “may take a while”.

It was literally at that moment that I felt my baby’s head crowning, much to everyone’s surprise. My obstetrician came running through the doors just in time to catch our little bundle of joy. In the background, Pharrell Williams belted out ‘Happy’ as if on cue.

Full Of Surprises

While it’s still early days yet, five months on and it is clear that our littlest baby is full of surprises. His laughs come out of nowhere and he will suddenly squeal with joy. He rolled over one day, completely out of the blue and went from waking every two hours to sleeping through (for ten hours!) literally overnight.

Only time will tell whether my happy little man continues to surprise us.

The conclusion? Well there’s no scientific proof and to be honest, I’m not sure whether there is any way of truly knowing if there’s a link here. If whether your baby’s personality can determine the type of labour you’ll have – or vice versa. But it sure is an interesting topic of conversation for your next mother’s group brunch!

So what about you? Do you think that your labour was a good indicator of your child’s personality?  Are we on to something here?

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  • oh my god i have never heard of that before. might be worth evaluating :D


  • Haha I have joked about this since my daughter was born because she was stubborn feom the get go. My waters broke, nothing happened, got induced, she wouldnt come out. I ended up needing an episiotomy and she was forcibly removed. She is now 10 months old, she is stubborn and lives by her own rules.


  • All 3 of my labours were very different (emergency c-section – cervical lip, episiotomy and ventouse – stuck/narrow pelvis, and a fast and easy one with my third as I did what I wanted, not the widwives, and had her standing up) as are my 3 kids. Funnily my youngest is the most stubborn and full-on, even though her birth was peaceful (she didn’t cry which unless there is something wrong, apparently means a peaceful birth). I think it’s random, as I have cousins that are fairly alike, of course having some different interests. I wonder how much impact the environment they grow up in has?


  • The theory used to be that the children were like their Mum or their Dad.
    Both my parents were stubborn – Dad much worse than Mum. I think Mum gradually became stubborn in coping with Dad being so stubborn, domineering and his emotional blackmail.
    Both my brother and I are stubborn at times. I’ve been told he is worse than me. He is selfish like Dad was too. I tend to put other family members ahead of myself and have to rest afterwards as I get too tired.


  • I never really thought about this before but I think there could be some truth in it looking at my first born. My new born is still a little too young to tell yet.


  • I think it’s true that the labour has some bearing on personality traits.
    My 4 x kids all have personalities that explain their labour or vice versa!
    My husband actually made the corrrelation some years ago!


  • All my labors were fast and furious that’s my boys now haha and my c section baby is still a pain when it comes to being difficulty maybe there is something in this.


  • Love the article someone should do an indepth study.


  • It’s an interesting theory. I have an only child, who has Aspergers/high-functioning ASD. I would say his personality was predetermined and actually determined the labour/birth rather than the other way round.


  • I like her theories about how birth can effect your childs personality. But I don’t think it’s makes them who they are. Otherwise there would be a whole lot of ‘same’ people out there who were born by Caesarean.


  • All cases and individuals are different.


  • Might have some bearing on what a child is like. My third child was stubborn and came out when he was ready and when he did he was in a hurry. At 33 years old is still very stubborn and wants his own way but is quick to learn anything. My last labour of love bore me twins who are so very different in what they do and are. As they are boy/girl yes some differences but one is shy, a mummies boy while his sister is out there trying to be like her oldest siblings who have over 30 years difference on her.


  • My labour was textbook. And so is my son. He’s the very definition of the average child. There might be something in this.


  • Lovely and interesting read. I don’t think my labour was a good indicator of their personality, but it some cases it might.


  • Have thought about it, the more traumatic birth is a less stressed kid. The more relaxed labour, the more high strung the kid is


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