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July 13, 2020

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It’s OK!

It’s okay to be a working parent.

A single parent.

A part-time parent.

It’s okay to be a stay at home parent.

A co-sleeping parent. A sleep training parent.

It’s okay to miss them. It’s okay to want a break from them.

It’s okay to have your kids in daycare. It’s okay to have a nanny. It’s okay to have grandparents look after them. It’s okay to not go back to work.

Salads are okay. Chicken nuggets are okay. Organic quinoa is okay. Tiny Teddies are okay. TV is okay. Books are okay. Craft is okay. Ignoring them while you Facebook for ten minutes is okay. Eating dinner at the table is okay. Eating in front of the TV is okay.

Re-wearing yesterday’s socks because there are no clean ones is okay. Clean pyjamas every 3 days without fail is okay. Skipping a bath is okay. Dirt is okay. Climbing trees is okay. Pyjama days are okay. Cake for breakfast is okay. Strict hand washing before every meal is okay. Eating organic food is okay. It’s okay to wait ten minutes until you get home to change your kid’s nappy if that’s going to be easier (Hot tip – Little One’s nappies are mega absorbent so your kid won’t even notice!).

Being too tired to parent somedays is okay.

Staring blankly at a wall for ten minutes while your kid flings laundry around the room is okay.

It’s okay to give your kids sugar. It’s okay to not give them sugar. It’s okay to let them stay up late. It’s okay to leave a party early to get them to bed on time.

It’s okay to travel. It’s okay to stay home. It’s okay to holiday with them. It’s okay to holiday without them. It’s okay to cuddle them for hours. It’s okay to want a little bit of space. It’s okay for them to be your whole world. It’s okay to have other things in your life.

It’s okay to worry. And worry. And worry. It’s okay to take a night off and not even miss them.

If your kid is okay, then it’s okay.

Is there anything you always worry about that you know is actually OK? Share in the comments below!

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  • There’s just some guilt I can’t move past, but everything in that list I’m fine with. And it’s nice to be reminded that everything we do is OK from time to time

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  • Felt guilty for a while – but how wonderful when your children tell you you have been a great mum through the years – all guilty feelings washed away in an instant.

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  • But is it okay for so many other things……………………how do we know? – especially with teenagers?

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  • I feel really positive when reading this article. There were so many things here i worry about everyday life.I always found it ended up when kids ok.

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  • I don’t feel guilt, just worry. Now he’s older it’s drive safely, be careful, watch out for others, be safe. I do get the eye roll, but I explain it’s my job as his Mum to care and worry and that will never change.

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  • I worry about my 2 youngest. I don’t suffer from mums guilt, I do the best I can and there is only so much we can do. There is a limit to our abilities for all of us and that is ok.

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  • I am an elderly mother of 2 and I struggle with not have been the mother my boys wanted. I treated them more like my best friends and that turned out to be 2 spoiled adults.

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  • Looking forward to their bed time when you’ve had a big day at work and you just need so. E. Down time is ok

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  • I have issues with anxiety and my biggest fear is the fear of failure. Now with kids, everything I do or don’t do is judged, I try to do what I can without letting my anxiety completely consume me. Some days are easier than others, and I know some of the things I can do to avoid triggering my anxiety.
    Today was one of those bad days after 2 months of trying hard to improve my anxiety. So I needed this today.
    Even as I type this, my 1 yo is having her 100th tantrum of the day, this time because …. I don’t actually know, she asked for milk, even went to the fridge, tried to talk the milk out, grabbed a cup, but when I gave her a cup of milk proceeded to tantrum. This is not uncommon, and she is such a smart toddler, but as my eldest officially start homeschooling prep next year I’m worried about spreading my time to do everything while also still staying sane.

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  • My bub is 4 months and I struggle to get up before 10am so there have been times I feed him and just put him down and hope that he’ll be quiet so I can sleep a bit more. I feel bad about it since early starts are better etc but I just really struggle.

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  • There are no hard and fast rules to being a parent. It is more instinct. Great piece of advise. If your kids okay then you have nothing to worry about. It is more about instinct, always follow your instincts when being a parent.

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  • Was always worried using the packet baby food and always wanted to make my own. Most nights I do but probably 3 out of 7 nights I will use packet stuff coz we aren’t eating baby suitable foods and it’s ok

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  • It is such an unusual time for everyone and checking that everyone is ok is important.

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  • There is wisdom in these words, great read !

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  • Yes every mumma needs to read this! We got ithis

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