Have you ever just felt like you would rather be anywhere, doing anything else rather than making dinner for your family? So many of us feel overworked and underappreciated and it might be time for a break!
Sometimes we just get a little bit tired, sick of our routine and would rather let the dishes pile up so we can have a nap for a week. It’s pretty familiar, it probably happens to everyone once in a while, but it can impact us fairly deeply, and make us feel pretty worn down.
I’m talking about:
- Meeting all the expectations and demands of others.
- Trying to look like you are successfully juggling it all.
- Putting on a happy face when you really just want to say, “no, I’m not okay!”
- Friends and family letting you down – yet you can’t mention it in case you look insensitive.
- Pretending your whole family is so happy – like the Brady Bunch.
- Moments when you think that you need some new goals because life isn’t exciting or purposeful anymore.
- Life is dishing you up lemons instead of Lamborghini’s.
- Then to top it all off – you are getting closer to 50 and there are bits that just aren’t doing what they are supposed to!
I am certain this is just not me, actually I know this isn’t just me as most of my friends and clients, at some point, go through all this too.
Is there a special trick to overcoming these moments? Is there a quick fix that works for everyone else?
Some would like you to think so, but I don’t know about any tricks or quick fixes that actually have a substantial long-term impact – yet I do know that not giving up and being open to other possibilities is a start.
We are now in spring in Australia. It is a time of warming up and getting outside more to enjoy the sunshine, and a time of growth for plants (and people too).
It is the best time to think about and begin to plan new possibilities and watch them grow.
It is a time to reflect and put to rest what isn’t working and the things you no longer want to move forward with. It is a time, which I use, to welcome in the energy of nurturing newly planted ideas and doing what it takes for them to grow strong and balanced. Picking up a new hobby might be your forte. Try joining a yoga class, planting something in the garden or joining a book club. You might find that taking some time out for you, doing activities you are interested in, will make you feel better about cooking food you don’t even like for your family because they won’t eat what you like.
My big announcement this month, after a couple of months of feeling like I had no clear direction, I decided to hit the books again and am going to University – beginning 1st semester next year. I have been offered a place in the Bachelor of Communication. I fell in love with writing last year whilst writing my first book, and I want to get even better at this art. I will be doing this part time so I can work around my business and my family. I am so excited, and feel that inner drive deep in my belly again. I know this is the right thing for me to be doing right now, as yet though I have no idea how I will pull it all off!
My nervousness was overcome when my offer came through on the first of September, you can’t get a better ‘sign’ than receiving an exciting new offer on the first day of Spring!
When life is being hard and heavy, I acknowledge it, then get out a piece of paper and begin to write what it is, what I want to be different and what I can do now to begin change. It is amazing what gets written on that paper, just like my decision to study again.
Enjoy the energy and possibilities that spring can bring for you. Take time to stop and ask, how can you allow spring to soften the tough bits so that new things can grow?
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