A new mum has been left upset after her husband won’t agree to let her stop breastfeeding their child.
Mum Herbie22 posted on Mumsnet asking for advice after she suggested she switch her five-week-old baby to formula.
‘I think she might not be getting enough from me as she needs near constant feeds. I would like to top her up with formula as I literally do nothing all day/night but feed her,’ she wrote in the post.
‘I tried to speak to OH (other half) about this and he said that he doesn’t want her on formula. He said that I am making enough because she is gaining weight. I don’t think she is gaining it fast enough though which worries me.’
She also said that she felt she had lost her zest for life because she spent all her time feeding, and resented her husband for being able to come and go ‘without a baby attached to him.’
She continues, “I don’t want to give up BF completely. Maybe just supplement her feeding but at the moment I feel like I’ve lost all my zest for life because all I do is sit either on the sofa or on my bed feeding.
It is also damaging my relationship with OH as we can’t even have dinner without DD wanting to be fed (though I do feed her just before) and I’m starting to resent him getting to do things, even popping to the shops, without a baby attached to him.
I know I sound horribly ungrateful as I am so blessed to have DD! I just want to be able to do things other than feed her!”
She added in comments that they are getting lots of wet nappies and she would consult with the health nurse on their next visit.
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MoM’s were quick to speak in support of the new mum when we asked what they thought.
“You’re not being unreasonable at all. Your (husband) isn’t the one having to feed all hours off day and having a baby attached to him,” one user wrote.
“They are your boobs and therefore it’s your choice and no one else’s,” said another.
Another shared, “No they shouldn’t. That being said.. I did ask hubby when I was BF #3 if he cared that I stopped BF at 11 weeks as I was struggling with it and chasing 2 toddlers arounds. He said it was my decision and do what was best for me.”
“No, it’s her body. Breastfeeding isn’t always as easy as it’s made out to be. For some women it just works. Some women have aversions to it. Some struggle in many different ways. I know I struggled to produce enough milk in the beginning, but I was determined to make it work. Even when hubby suggested I should give up.”
“Both my ex-husband and my current husband left it totally up to me. When it comes to breastfeeding I think dads could offer their opinion but anything more than that is over the top… it’s the woman’s body after all.”
“No, her decision”
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