Naming a new baby is a personal, heartfelt decision that parents spend months labouring over. But this mum-to-be says the decision has been snatched away by her mother-in-law, and her husband.
The 28-year-old woman says she and her husband are expecting their first baby together – a little girl. And her due date is fast approaching. The first-time-mum says she decided to honour her grandmother, by naming her daughter after her – and her husband was on board.
“I spent most of my childhood and teen years with my grandparents,” the mum-to-be explained on reddit. “I was extremely close with my grandmother and was devastated when she passed away in 2016 from lung cancer. We live close to my grandfather and visit him on a daily basis. It means so much to my grandfather that we are naming our daughter ‘Anne’.”
‘You’re going to be naming her after me’
The woman admits that she and her mother-in-law have a frosty relationship, but for the most part, they get along.
“My MIL and I are cordial when we get together. My husband is her only child, and she feels like since I stepped into his life, their relationship changed. He is still very close with her, but he doesn’t visit often because of the pregnancy.
“MIL invited us over for a small dinner party and I thought it was going to be a pleasant evening. When we sat down for dinner, my MIL turns to me and says, ‘Husband and I spoke this past week and he told me that you were going to be changing her name to be after me’. I could feel my anxiety level rising and said, ‘No. We are still planning on keeping her name to be Anne. Right?’ I gave my husband a look and he doesn’t say anything. My MIL makes a face and says, ‘Well, it seems like husband is not on board with her name’.”
Ouch! The upset expecting mum says she finished her dinner and told her husband they were leaving.
“We get into the car and husband tries to apologise. I told him that I was angry with him for not discussing with me and even more upset with MIL. MIL sent me a few text messages regarding my behaviour that evening and hopes I will change my mind.”
The woman is now wondering if she’s the one in the wrong for being upset at her mother-in-law and husband.
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