Mum turns to the net to ask if she is too overprotective. Can you help?

Posting anonymously the mum wrote, “My 9 yr old son made a new friend at his sport the other day and it happens to be a female which is fine by me.

“They chatted and talked for a while, then her mum approached my husband and asked for his phone number so the kids can catch up and maybe call each other which my husband gave her his number.

“When my son came home he told me he had made a new friend and he told me all about her. I said that was excellent and that I could not wait to meet her the next week. My husband received a message that afternoon from the girl mum, and I thought wow that is pretty soon after just meeting.

“I understand the girl goes to a small school and may not have a lot of friends but my mother instinct went that is pretty soon after just meeting I would have thought a few weeks of catching up at sport before she sent a text message. My husband told me she seems like a very strong forward girl.

“My sons poppy thinks I am being a bit crazy and does not think anything is wrong with it, he had a chat to the girls mum and is happy to let them spend sometime together, I don’t see anything wrong with them being friends and catching up at the sporting ground and maybe catch up somewhere else in the future but not after they have just meet.

As a mum I just found it a bit stalker like and a bit quick to be making contact after only meeting a few hours earlier. Am I being too overprotective?

What would you do?

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  • If the friend was a male would she call them a stalker. Of course not. Playing into stupid old fashioned sexist stereotypes that girls have to act a certain way.


  • It does all seem a little bit odd.


  • Everyone is different. It would be a shame to miss out on a lovely friendship because you may have misinterpreted the situation.


  • I would not worry about it to be honest


  • ..maybe she’s a keen to see your husband?


  • I would be more worried the mum wanted the dad


  • No, I don’t think strange. Just full of excitement. She may not have any other friends and is excited for a catch up.


  • I am a grown woman and I get excited when I make a new friend. I don’t see why this is strange. When I met my now husband, he called me the next day to organise a date.


  • They may just be excited to make a new friend. Perhaps meet somewhere neutral where you can meet and have coffee with the parents while the kids play. That way you’ll be able to get to know the parents and the child too.


  • Maybe the little girl hasn’t got many friends? I say see how it goes .. having said That , I’m not sure I would have given out his phone number…


  • Making a new friend can be very exciting so I can understand that feeling


  • I would just be happy they had found friendship and let things take their course.


  • Sometimes it’s good to cement something whilst the face is still in mind.


  • Perhaps this mum had a great time with your family and just wanted to get something scheduled in that day before she forgot! I think it would be weird if she asked to hang out again that afternoon.


  • I say, trust your instincts. They are usually right.


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