The mum-to-be was left gutted when her husband was less than excited about the announcement…

A third time mum has taken to parenting forum Mumsnet to share her disappointment about her husband’s reaction to her pregnancy announcement. After having her contraceptive coil taken out in October, the mum says that they had discussed trying for another baby and were in no rush, but nature had other ideas…

Too Much To Handle

The mum says that she had been having conversations with her husband about the possibility of another child for a while. “We decided we would try for another baby, we were in no rush so just decided to see how it went,” she said. “We’ve spoken about it a few times in the last few months, all positive stuff, just general chat, even spoken about it to his mum and sister, he even told them he would like a girl.” Everything indicated they were on the same page, but the mum said that when she texted her husband to say she was pregnant a little sooner than expected, his response came as a shock. “What are you going to do?” he said, going on to ask if they should keep the baby.

Really Upsetting

After receiving the text, the mum says she was in total shock. “I told him I thought he was being selfish and horrible and asked why he agreed to me having the coil out if he didn’t want me to get pregnant,” she wrote. “Now maybe this is me being really oversensitive, but it has really upset me…I feel so deflated and just not excited at all now.” Fellow mums commenting on the post were equally gobsmacked. “He sounds like he’s changed his mind and not told you. That’s really unfair,” said one outraged mum. Others suggested that the mum’s decision to text her husband the news could be part of the problem. “Maybe you just caught him at a really bad time?” said one.

We really hope this couple are able to work things out – this husband needs a lesson or two in how to communicate!

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  • For someone who was agreeable to trying for another baby, his reply is of great concern. “What are you going to do?” Excuse me! I would have said to him, grow happily pregnant, have and keep the child. How absurd and as for catching him at a bad moment or time, this response is no excuse. He was agreeable from the start and to come back at his wife with that reply is a big let down and totally unsupportive of her and the baby. I do hope he thinks about what he said and apologises for his hurtful reaction and that his attitude to the developing baby changes and he is more welcoming. Hold your head up mamma, love your baby and your pregnancy, even if he doesn’t.


  • Neither of my exes were excited about their kid/s. Caused me depression as if I missed out on the while loving relationship thing but I’m happier single than with toxicity.


  • It may have been just a shock for him ? Hopefully they can sort it out.


  • Maybe it was just a big shock that it happened sooner than he thought it would. Hopefully he apologises for his reaction and is now on the same page. Wishing you all the best and a stress free pregnancy


  • Wow, a tricky situation. Clearly, they were communicating about another baby so the news shouldn’t have been a surprise. However, I would never text my hubby with such news. A face-to-face would have been the right thing to do.


  • Shocking reaction. Maybe he thought the message was from his ‘girlfriend’ not his wife. That would explain the response!!


  • Clearly he was shocked but still a disappointing reaction nevertheless.


  • that’s horrible it takes 2 to make a baby and it was a joint decision. I think his reaction is uncalled for!


  • Oh dear, I bet she was feeling sad for awhile


  • Maybe the wife needs a lesson or two in how to communicate! No way would I have texted [it wasn’t around in my day though] news that was this important. It would have been over a well cooked meal that the husband would have liked and with a ‘well, it’s sooner than we thought, but our expectation of another baby has materialised’ – this is face to face stuff, not a text!


  • He was probably in shock, hopefully he came around.


  • I would have never given such a big announcement with a text message. That the husband reacted like that is not nice at all. But it looks like an indication that there is something wrong between them. :-(


  • that is difficult to handle but hopefully after some time things will work out


  • I think this will probably all work out once they’ve had time to calm down and chat about it.


  • Hopefully he will be more supportive to his wife!


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