We’re all for mums helping each other out, but what happens when it goes too far?
The start of a new school year means a return to the dreaded school run – traffic, tired kids, no parking…you know the drill. Helping each other out with drop off and pick up can make the whole process a lot more bearable, but a concerned mum has taken to popular forum Mumsnet after occasional pickups for her friend turned into a daily occurrence.
Pushing The Friendship
The mum says that despite their friendship being relatively new, she was more than happy to help when first asked. “I have a friend (I’ve known her since our kids started school a year ago) who is asking me ‘casually’ almost every day to drop her four year old son off at home after school,” she wrote. “She started off occasionally asking if I could pick him up due to a ‘meeting she couldn’t move’…and it was only once, maybe twice a week. But lately she is asking me pretty much every day and for reasons like ‘can you pick him up so I can finish early?’ or just asking me to pick him up without giving a reason.” Despite her generosity in continuing to do the after school pick up, the mum says it has never been reciprocated. “It also annoys me because on the days when she does pick up her own son from school, she NEVER offers to drop my son home – not even once.” This arrangement doesn’t sound very fair to us!
The mum asked forum users whether she was being unreasonable by making up excuses to get out of helping her friend with the school run. “Aside from this issue we get along quite well and it’s really irritating me that she is totally oblivious that she is asking too much,” she said. “I really really hate confrontation. Do I just keep making up excuses and hope she gets it?”
We totally get where this mum is coming from. Offering to do the occasional school pick up is one thing, but being asked almost daily is completely unfair. Sounds like a difficult conversation is in order…
Have you ever had another mum ask you for one too many favours? Let us know in the comments!